Re: When it is dead it is dead chaotic: [quote author=galil link=topic=36586.msg389574#msg389574 date=1161701509">
I wonder why some people stay here and post and continue to post.
Is it because we have not accepted that our marriage is over?
Are we trying to find answers for how we got where we were?
I am not sur eto the answer but I have come to the conclusion my marriage is dead. I am not needed and wanted and have to make peace with this.
Posting here will not fix what once was, I was married, now I am not. that is the reality of things and I have nocotrol over that anymore.
We have to move on, we cant sift thru the rubble in signs of hope that we might be able to revive the dead.
I have FINALY, accepted the demise of my last relationship, and now will move on.
I am not sure of what the best action to moving on is. I just know hanging out on the iternet is no way to achieve this.
I have a cutomer who flies for UPS and his daughter and I have become friends. she has been aware of what I have been going thru and is helping me get thru this phase of letting go. She has all the qualities you would look for in a partner, and, has expressed interest, when the time was right for us to maybe give it a chance.
I have buried my relationship and even though it seems so soon I realy feel a connection with this person. I would hate to think I missed out on someone wonderful while trying to hold on to something that needed to be buried. Wish me luck I talked with her this morning and we are going to start hanging out together to see where things go.
When one door closes another usualy opens, I hope this is the right door.
Galil < < < xess fingers ;D
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People continue to post after the demise of thier relationship because everyone heals at a different rate. Some people struggle with the legal aspects of thier divorce for years. Others may have had an easier time with it, but are now dealing with the X for custody or other issues. Others are constantly plagued by their X because their X is devious and manipulating. Some of us stick around, not to sift thru the rubble, but in hopes that our own experiences may help someone that is just starting with this.
I am glad you have found peace. And I am glad that you have found a connection. But please be careful and slow. I thought I had found a connection soon after my divorce....Only to later realize, I was so desparate for validation that I latched onto a connection that was not really there.
Re: When it is dead it is dead allmusic76: Best of luck,
I second Mo's sentiments. It's actually very refreshing to see someone so able-minded about their future. It gives me hope that I'm going to get this monkey off of my back eventually.
Re: When it is dead it is dead down2basics: I can vouch for Galil - he is a success story - two times over! ;D He's been through the fires of Divorce and come through it stronger and wiser than before he went in, yet not so jaded as to not believe that there is love out there. Way to go Galil! You are definitely a jewel in the Ojar crown! ;D
