Why? tryingtogetyouback: I've been hanging out with my first ex-girlfriend lately. Say about 2 to 3 times a week for the past 7 months. We've become good friends and I do admit I have fallen for her again. But as time passes by I began to know her better and I saw something in her that I never knew. Was it the real her that I never saw or was it that she changed?
Each time we meet will always be a last minute decision like she'd call/text me (Or I'll call/text her) to meet up for coffee. Within 10 minutes I have to get changed and rush down to meet her as soon as possible just 'cos she doesn't like waiting alone and I don't want to keep her waiting at all. And if she's late for our meetings or whatsoever I wouldn't be angry I'll just wait patiently for her. I'm always excited to see her and I'll never get bored. Whenever she's down or feeling depressed I'll try to cheer her up even though I'm not very good with my words and I'd try hard to make decisions of where to go (usually she's the one deciding) so to make her happy.
Whatever I'm doing is always for her, I want her to be happy but at the same time I'm feeling miserable because whenever she wants to meet I'll meet her but when I text her (eg. Hey u've got any plans today? Wanna meet up?) and if she happens not to be free and doesn't want to meet she'll not reply my message and she just kept me waiting and waiting. She doesn't see a need to reply because to her replying a message or phone calls is unneccessary and if it's urgent the person will call back. But I wouldn't want to keep calling her because to me if she doesn't pick up at that point of time maybe she might have gone to the ladies or maybe she's really busy that's why she's not picking up then I wouldn't know because she won't return calls. I don't want to be a pest and keep calling but I can't stand her not replying, I've told her that before and she said she's like that and I have to get used to it.
I bought her her favourite phone to please her, I also got her a new laptop (she insisted in paying me back the amount so I sold it to her for less than half the retail price) as she needed to do her work. She was appreciative at first. But few days ago I got into an car-bike accident (which she witnessed as we were going for a drink) and I had to pay for the bike repairs, luckily the motorist wasn't injured badly. That was my first accident and I'm traumatized by it. On the same night I dropped her a few text messages telling her how bad I'm feeling and stuffs. She didn't reply. Then at the point of time I didn't know what to do, I don't know if she didn't see the need to reply me or that she was asleep. That kept me waiting for a couple of hours. The next afternoon she called me and asked if I was alright. I replied yes and she said ok. On the same day I received a call from the motorist saying I had to go down to the scooter service center to pay for the costs of the damage. When I got there they told me a lum sum of money that I had to pay and I couldn't afford it (I'm not well off). So I called her up, she told me to borrow from my friends, she was broke and only could afford a little. I was afraid, I didn't want them to charge it to the insurance company as it would cost much more in the future. I borrowed the money from my friends, and now I'm taking sometime to pay it back. The same night I called her as I wanted some comfort, I needed empathy to get through, I feel like I'm beginning to suffer from depression. She told me she had to attend her friend's dad funeral and she'd call me back. I waited for a few hours, no calls. and it's been 24 hours. No news, no calls. What have I done to deserve this? After all that I've done for her, is this what I get in return? I just need some comforting words, nothing much. I need her to be by my side, supporting me as a friend. :( I don't know what to do now...
Re: Why? kN3eLb4Z0d: 24 hours? Really. Just play some San Andreas and cap some hookers. Make some lemonade. I don't know. Everything'll probably be all good.
Re: Why? BobFromAcctg: She's not into you man..Let her go. You are making yourself look bad by hanging on.
I know first hand - not a good move.
Re: Why? 2be: You're not going to like what I'm going to say, though this is just my opinion. She doesn't care for you, not even as a friend. She is using you and your emotions. You buy her things, take care of her, listen to her and she does NOTHING. A person who loves you, whether that be as a romantic partner, or even a friend, returns calls, supports you.
You are waiting on her hand and foot and she just eats it up without returning a thing. I suggest not calling, texting... break contact completely. If she values your relationship she needs to start putting some effort into it.
She is not your friend.
Re: Why? idocsteve: Dump the chick and the scooter and buy a car. They're safer.
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