To the newbies and ojarians...and those in the middle no more tears: My recent post that quote " lit up like an xmas tree " wasnt meant to be some wierd off the topic chat that it ended up being. End the end i had a few agree...most disagree.. some poke cheap jabs...and some start a topic inside a topic. I guess i put fuel on the fire when i responded i would call out the morons. Anyways that what yesterday today is now. I must say that although the responses to that post were varied and yes some were rather lame, there were a few bright spots especially some ojar members offering to pm me to give advice.
I guess that post what just a reflection of how im feeling inside. Drained, frustrated, lonely,bitter,isolated,abandoned, relieved. I have turned to ojar for along time, sometimes not posting, just reading. It helps ...always has. And to this day still does. I guess i posted and wanted a genie to come out of a bottle and click her wand, but alas i got a lesson in grammar as a response. Not that that isnt expected, as 1 response noted, this is a free site open to all of the internet. Kinda scary if you think about it. The millions of online users can access the site at any time and lay it on you....you dont get that on ojar...you may get a few responses off the mark...but this site is special..kind of like a sacred place to just let it out. Im amazed as to some of the stories i read on here...not of the context...but to the people out there willing to let it all out and tell the truth.
I am posting on tell your story cuz i could still use some insight...still
This is how i feel as of over 1 year later....
Drained.i feel i have done everthing in my power to fix my situation or at least fix the way i feel inside...still not there
Frustated...u know it has to piss you off after awhile, u tried and tried with your X..now u have tried and tried with a new life....
Lonely...single life has its advantages....but for me anyway having someone full time to share your life with is a key to happiness
Bitter... im still pissed at the way we ended and the things that occured to break us...still bitter at her for the things she did and things she couldve done
Isolated...I have been out with friends and went on dates....but lately i just want to be alone..wtf
Abandoned...My other half walked out on the life we built...nothing else more to say
Relieved...I know this will end 1 day...it has to
I suppose after reading this comment back to myself before posting, i still have along way to go. This whole situation has just been a nightmare. 1 that i still live threw on a daily basis. Like i said being single has its advatages...but its not about that...this person WAS my other half....im still a newbie myself...because obviously i have not made much progress....comments/advice please ( no grammar lessons needed thanks )
Re: To the newbies and ojarians...and those in the middle Whirlpool: [quote author=no more tears link=topic=37011.msg396593#msg396593 date=1162538955">
My recent post that quote " lit up like an xmas tree " wasnt meant to be some wierd off the topic chat that it ended up being. End the end i had a few agree...most disagree.. some poke cheap jabs...and some start a topic inside a topic. I guess i put fuel on the fire when i responded i would call out the morons. Anyways that what yesterday today is now. I must say that although the responses to that post were varied and yes some were rather lame,[/quote">
You post the other threads you posted, then you start off your request for support with this? Jesus man what are you thinking? Stop throwing the people on this site under a bus and maybe you will get some support. I suggest you delete the first paragraph, replace it with "I regret what happened in prior thread and would like to start fresh" and go from there. Do that and I will delete this post as well. I really do not get the point of you bringing this up again then asking for support in the same post.
Re: To the newbies and ojarians...and those in the middle surprised: No more tears,
I wish I had something to say to help. I am newer at this than you are and I am still completely depressed myself. I talk to people, I laugh, I smile, I make jokes, and I walk away thinking, what a phony I am. I walk away thinking, I'm so depressed. I come home to my quiet house, check my caller i.d. and there's only telemarketing calls. I check my email and it's mostly just spam. I dream about him almost every night. I wish I knew when it would stop for me, then maybe I could help you. I guess my point is you are not alone and everyone heals in their own time. Keep doing things to make yourself feel better and it has to become part of you eventually. Depending on how long you were together, a year is not that long. For both our sakes, I hope the old adage, "time heals all wounds," is true.
Re: To the newbies and ojarians...and those in the middle idocsteve:
Re: To the newbies and ojarians...and those in the middle yella: Your posts were about more than just grammar, and I think you know it. Your posts were meant to take your aggression out on people here because YOU felt angry. I can tell you now that it's not the way to go, and as you can see, your actions have burned a few people.
I don't think it was fair for you to post what you did, but you did it. It is what it is. Now you look for support.
Yes, your thread was hijacked, but at the same time, you got under a lot of people's skins, and the respect you were screaming for was thrown right out the window as a result. So, yes YOUR thread was going to be hijacked. Plus the fact that you took your time responding to people. That's not going to win you any votes.
We are a very caring (and many times forgiving) community, and even if YOU don't see it, we are. This site has pulled a lot of people (myself included) out of some very dark holes. Your posts basically insulted that.
I'm sure that once this all passes, you'll get the support you need, but you have to work with us, and not against us, to get it.
I hope you can understand that.
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