Re: Does Anyone Notice This? l0progression: [quote author=zjmusashi link=topic=37014.msg398037#msg398037 date=1162837849"> If you're just looking to get lucky, you've just turned your date into a prostitute. Good luck with that.[/quote">
Explain that one. If its mutual between both parties, what's the problem?
Re: Does Anyone Notice This? zjmusashi: [quote author=l0progression link=topic=37014.msg398129#msg398129 date=1162844016">
[quote author=zjmusashi link=topic=37014.msg398037#msg398037 date=1162837849"> If you're just looking to get lucky, you've just turned your date into a prostitute. Good luck with that.[/quote">
Explain that one. If its mutual between both parties, what's the problem?
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The intent before the act. Re-read that paragraph. There's a difference between going out looking for sex, and going out to have a good time which then leads to sex. Yes, sex is fun, and I love a good booty call as much as the next warm-blooded male. ;) But, if that's all you're doing, just going out to find someone to screw, you're not developing a friendship or any sort of relationship outside of the sexual act - it's all just "say whatever I have to so those pants come off".
Case in point - I went out with a friend last night. Wasn't thinking about getting lucky, but after an amazing night where we talked, cuddled, etc. things made their way to the bedroom and we had a great time. But I didn't set out for that sole purpose. Hope that made a bit more sense ;)
Re: Does Anyone Notice This? kN3eLb4Z0d: Bah. There are no rules. Do what you want to do and fahgiddaboutit.
Re: Does Anyone Notice This? anewday: This is a very good thread b/c I have been thinking about the same things myself.
zjmusashi I appreciate what you posted - it has given me a lot to think about.
But as for making sure you don't date the same person - therapy. I have been working this out in therapy. It helps me to have clear-cut expectations. I tend to attract men who don't know what they want out of life, who have no goals and need a "mommy figure" to take care of them. Me being a "care-taker type" tend to fall for that. It is a very conscious effort that I not fall into that trap again.
I guess in general you need to be very reflective and honest with yourself.
Good luck.
Re: Does Anyone Notice This? whythisnow: One of the first dates I had after the seperation was with a woman just like my Ex. ...... OMG.
We dated for about three months and I broke it off.
I then dated anything except like my Ex and the had a lot of lousy dates. I even got dumped by a real cute girl.
Eventually, through hard work and dedication I my GF and I am very happy. I still have a few issues I'm working on but I know they are my issues. I am only human.
Keep dating to have fun and sooner or later you meet someone that makes it all worth while.
Good luck,
FIDO
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