Re: Feeling really down notagain: [quote author=big_daddy link=topic=37024.msg396817#msg396817 date=1162574328">
Brielle...one day at a time babe. This may be a string of bad ones, it'll make the long run of great ones coming up seem even better.
You have come a long way, but there is still road to be traveled. This could be the steep incline before the final turn...you just never know. That light could be right around the corner.
But just know that, as little consilation as it is sometimes, you are never alone...you have us. And even after OJAR Brielle...I'll always be here for you. You're like my best friend in the world these days...I'll carry you to that damn light if I have to. I want to see you get that happiness you so deserve.
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OMG how sweet is that. Everyone of us needs a friend like this. awww!!
Re: Feeling really down Rain_Gray: When I was getting over a pretty unbearable break-up the most normal stuff would just make me breakdown into tears... I remember when I noticed how odd it had become, I was sitting in my parents livingroom and a toiletpaper commercial came on with a bunch of puppies running around in a feild of cotton and I just LOST it. I was really depressed. Most of us have been in that stage. It helps to talk about it and to get out and take your mind off of it. Go for a hike. Go to a movie. Read a good book. What I did to deal with it was write a list of ten big things I wanted to do before the end of the year and started crossing them off as I did them. I never finished before the end of the year, but I stopped thinking about my break-up and I started living life and getting things accomplished. Eventually I finished everything on the list as well. Ask yourself if you could do anything before you died, what would you do? and then work until you've done it.
Re: Feeling really down 2be: When I was at that point, I just tried to find happiness wherever I could. Even the smallest thing... the way a palm tree cast a shadow or the color of a building against the blue sky, a butterfly, the sound of the dual exhaust on my Mustang ;), things like that.
Those tiny, tiny things stay with you and lighten your heart just a little.
Re: Feeling really down XTINA: I agree with 2be. Try to find happiness in something, even something small. Go to the pet store and play with the baby animals, shop for something you've always wanted, or get a facial/massage. This will help take the edge off the "all alone" feeling. I am in the adjustment faze as well (I just moved into my own place last week), and have found the lonliness unbearable at times, but doing stuff to take my mind off it/stuff I enjoy does help.
Re: Feeling really down brielle123: Thank you everyone for the thoughtful and encouraging words. It really helps me get through this nightmare of depression I have been feeling lately. OJARians are some of the most caring people in the world and I just want you all to know how much I appreciate each of you that have helped pick me up again and again. Words just can't describe just how gracious I am.
I really have been trying to be productive and keep myself busy. I mean I am doing everything that I know to help me heal through this. I go out pretty much every weekend with friends, I go to school, I have a full time job, I read self-help books, I started taking a dance class......it just feels like I am going through the motions of life without any sort of drive....if that makes any sense at all.
I know you all are right, it does just take time...I think that maybe when I started to feel better after a month or so of being in somewhat of a catatonic state I thought I was done grieving my failed marriage..... apparently I wasn't, cause I have had an obvious relapsed.
Maybe I do need to go play with some puppies Xtina & Clarice....how can you be sad when you are holding a furry little baby?!
Rain - I have actually been watching Ellen's talk show and she has a big thing for "life lists", like what you are talking about. I keep meaning to actually write one for myself....I need to just quit talking about it and do it!
Crystal & 2be - both of you are so positive...I just need to start appreciating what I DO have in my life....not what I don't.
You are so right notagain....everyone does need a friend like big daddy. I truly don't know what I would do without him. He knows just what to say, doesn't he?
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