you can't be serious?! fading17: so...the past 2 weeks...my ex was calling me everyday..sometimes a couple times a day just to see how i was..how my day was. we even hung out a lot. we talk last sunday and we decide to try dating again soon. not exclusively though. then, all of a sudden, he back off. no calling, no hanging out. tells me i should be happy now and not sad kowing we are going to be back together in some way. and the more i think about it the more i know i CANNOT and WILL NOT be able to date him while hes seeing other girls. u cant go from 4 years of loving someone and being in love and serious...to all of a sudden dating. i'm going crazy. last night we talked online, and he said he had to look for his jacket and he would brb....i waited 50 minutes. yeah, i was checking my mail and talking to other people, but he never came back! so i just left a message saying "i guess u couldn't find ur jacket. if u want give me a call on the way to practice. or if not, maybe this weekend if u have time, i know ull be busy".....nothing! no call..no text....and he's going away this weekend! i may have made mistakes but i definitely deserve better treatment than this. i just cant let go...2 months and counting and i cant let go. im still so sad. i dont know why after everything we have been thru it had to come down to this. and y did he say he still cares and would regret not giving us another chance...but still want to see other girls and treat me like this?!
when does the pain and emptiness go away? :'(
Re: you can't be serious?! icwtsmnl: i guess he's already seeing someone else. he was just interested in the chase. and then he got you. :( i'm really sorry he's putting you through this. i think the signs are clear and you should continue on the healing path you were on before. without him. :(
hugs for you.
Re: you can't be serious?! alonewith2: Sounds like he just wanted to make sure you'd still be around in case his others options didn't work out. Once you agreed, his mind eased and he's feeling reassured...
You just became the back up plan. :(
Re: you can't be serious?! Gren: You have to love being someone's consolation prize.
Re: you can't be serious?! allmusic76: I don't mean to play devil's advocate.... but what happened to cause the break up to begin with?
Could he be trying to get revenge for being hurt?
The healing takes a while. Believe me. There are days where I think I am going to be Ok, and days where I know I'm not.
I sit at work for HOURS after I should have gone home, because that's what bothers me the most. I hate going home to "the apartment we picked out together" but seeing only my things there.
But there is the anger over the things she did to me, and it sucks.
It's a double edged sword and it can be paralyzing. It's easy to forget how to move in such a situation. THe best way to move, is to dig deep deep deep down inside and figure out what you want, and you'll find that whatever causes you to get stuck, gives way just a hair... and you can get yourself out of the situation that you are in and start working towards the healing portion.
