Re: My wife said she loves another man allmusic76: This is a tough situation....
so let's try to weed out the opinions and objectiveness and get to the facts that we can use... they make for a better thought process.
Well, for starters.... you love your wife. But on the flip side, she has had a pension for infidelity. Lastly, she has CHOSEN you.
This is good, but not easy in my opinion. She is choosing you, which means deep down she wants to figure this out and be with you. However, she has to understand you are a human being that she is dragging through the mud with some of the mistakes she has made.
She needs to learn how to keep her word, and stick to her vows. This woman married you. At some point she loved you enough to dedicate a lifetime to you.
You mentioned passion wasn't there early on. Well, try to talk to her about it.
The hardest part of your situation is that you need to approach her softly... because she may be nursing wounds as well... however, you have to approach her sternly as well... you can't allow her to think that you will tolerate that type of behavior any further.... because if she thinks you will.... then you empower her to do it again and again.
Re: My wife said she loves another man idocsteve: So Confused,
It's time to play hardball. Kick her butt to the curb until she's done playing games. She can come back when she makes the right choice. If she decides to move on, then there's nothing you can say or do to change it. All you have now is your dignity, and that's going away real fast.
Re: My wife said she loves another man Emily: You are such a tough man. I think your wife is being way too self-fish but at least she confronted everything with you. It seems like at this stage, your wife is being excited with a new love but you know what? As time goes by, she probably will regret of what she did. I dunno how to tell you save the marriage, it sucks to hear you both were marry for so long cuz I know how difficult you're going through at this point, so sorry to hear that. Do you have kids with her? Try to save the marriage if you both have kids. It seems every couples do have some sort of problem but to stay together really depends on how they deal with it. Will you ever forgive what your wife do to you IF you both reconcile? If you clearly can answer that, then give time to your wife and let her think what she really want. I highly doubt she will end up with that man even if she don't come back to you though.
I hope everything works well for you and your wife. Good luck!
Re: My wife said she loves another man allmusic76: Hey man...
it's easy to feel bitter and frustrated....
I was once given some very good advice... and I didn't take it...
"Both sit down and take time to think and don't do anything drastic."
I feel that could have cost me everything I held dear.
Re: My wife said she loves another man ChiefWiggum: There's no cometing that that passion she feels for the other guy.
Listen to me: I would give anything to go back in time and kick my xw out of the house when I first found out she was seeing another guy.
Listen to me: She will treat you like dirt if you are available. You need to kick her out. NO CONTACT. Let her see what she is missing. Right now she has you (comfort) and the other guy (fun). Do not allow yourself to be disrepsected. Took me over a year to learn that and I suspect it will take you just as long, but I am hoping you will see it immediatlely and save yourself a lot of heartache. She gets bonus points for being honest with you
After what I went through I will never allow myself to be (knowingly) disrespected by my wife, boss, friends, anyone.
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