Re: When does the anger and hurt go away.... Bluewolf030: [quote author=torn-n-2 link=topic=37053.msg397447#msg397447 date=1162668526">
He is (your ex) a little insignificant speck on a huge planet filled with people that would never hurt you like that.
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I like that ... that is a very good way to look at it.
Re: When does the anger and hurt go away.... lld: One thing to remember is that the hate and anger inside you hurts you - not him or the OW. I have been reading a good book "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger" - It gives some really good life about changes in life. All changes mean giving up something, but they also allow other things to come nto your life. "As with any of the losses we all experience over a lifetime, acceptance begins with letting go of a picture you had of yourself and going back to the drawing board to create a new one." Your children give you so much to live for. Even with all the hardships of taking care of them on your own, you are blessed to have them in your life. Try to find strength in what you have and create a new picture of who you want to be. Don't try to be kind to him if you feel he doesn't deserve it - remain detached and try to treat your interactions with him as 'business transactions' - occasions to be civil, but nothing more or less. Good luck in healing in these difficult times.
