Re: when you're over it RSGinATX: [quote author=tree link=topic=37068.msg397559#msg397559 date=1162686850">
You'll know you're over it when you have the opportunity to get even, and you don't take it.
---Diary of a Mad Black Woman.
Something to think about.
Tree
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Being over it is not even realizing there was an opportunity to "get even" as you no longer feel you are on the negative side of the equation.
Wink
Re: when you're over it alonewith2: [quote author=Wink link=topic=37068.msg397621#msg397621 date=1162712363">
[quote author=tree link=topic=37068.msg397559#msg397559 date=1162686850">
You'll know you're over it when you have the opportunity to get even, and you don't take it.
---Diary of a Mad Black Woman.
Something to think about.
Tree
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Being over it is not even realizing there was an opportunity to "get even" as you no longer feel you are on the negative side of the equation.
Wink
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Amen to that!
Taking the high road speaks of your character, not your recovery. It's when you don't even feel the need to retaliate because the thought never crossed your mind...then you know that you've passed that hurdle.
Re: when you're over it allmusic76: i think that's a better assessment...
When you stop thinking about it is probably closer to being over it... however I don't think we are ever truly "over it" .... especially the occasions where we are left with scars.
Re: when you're over it katbuttkid: Good thinking folks!
Yes, some of us just aren't vindictive by nature.
But that's what I think this quote means, however you look at it.
If you are holding your tongue and taking the high road, but still feel it... well, that's not being over it.
I think it's good to hold your tongue, don't get me wrong. But at the same time... I always feel that even when I am holding my tongue, some part of my real feelings are showing through. Maybe I'm just more transparent, or maybe I want the credit for my good behavior, I dunno.
I wish I had taken the high road in my D, because it would have been easier to get over. REacting only exacerbates the issue.
Anyway, I like that quote because I think it goes along with something I think Budda (?) might have said about Hate not being the opposite of Love, but that indifference is.
Re: when you're over it allmusic76: I've heard that too... about Love and indifference being opposites.
I think that fits with the phrase " the person who cares the least in a relationship, is the person who holds the most power".
Indifference is a mighty blade indeed.
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