The whole story part 3 continued artickittycat: So anyway, I wrote my husband a letter...STUPID....STUPID....STUPID, did I say STUPID? Trying to reconcile, I wanted to make him believe that I would do whatever it took, and wanted to come back home...well he gave it to his lawyer, his lawyer sent it to his criminal lawyer in NH....charges got dropped. I didn't think it could get worse, but then it did...I was alone, I was scared and I had lost my babies again....I ate a bunch of pills, was sick for 3 days, sick...and then I came back to NH for support from my family.
The next month had hearing in NH on jurisdiction...my husband wasn't there. His lawyer was, but he wasn't...the judge wanted proof of residencey and all kinds of information before he made his ruling...the lawyers put together their cases...the judge decided that he wouldn't rule until the next hearing in AL on jurisdiction to see what AL wants to do...in July we had the hearing in AL, we thought we had it licked. We thought from the way the hearing went it sounded like it was in my favor...Wrong again. The two judges between states decided that AL had jurisdiction. July was the last time I got to see the babies. My husband met his girlfriend in July, as you can see this divorce part hadn't even started....it's just the beginning.
The decision on jurisdiction came down the first part of September, no appeals, no nothing...My son is in school and he loves it here. I was just trying to hold off a while before moving back. Brennen is staying here with my mom. My husband and I have been trying to negotiate, not working. I was going to move back at the first of the year, so to not go so long without seeing my son. Now I can't. Got to go back...my husband doesn't want the house although he is living there. We can agree on the divorce, just not the custody...
As if I hadn't been shit on enough with the girlfriend, and the phone calls not being answered, and all this crap...I talked to my lawyer Friday asking him what I needed to do, is my husband going to move out of the house? I had moved up the moving date to November 20th, my lawyer said don't give notice at your job, or your apartment. He was going to get up with Scott's lawyer and find out what was going on...that was the whole conversation...then yesterday in the mail I got a letter from my lawyer...We have a divorce hearing December 19th in AL... my lawyer didn't say anything...nothing about a court date on Friday, yet he mailed the letter on Halloween. So I have just over a month to get down there, find a place to live hopefully the house, get a job....and then go to court....I'm livid. I think it's time for a new lawyer, but I hate to change now after all of this crap that has happened. No time for the new lawyer to go through all this and represent me in a month...I don't know what to do...And why would my lawyer not tell me the day he got the court date to get my ass down there, get in the house, get a job asap...no my lawyer says don't quit your job up there, keep your apartment...WHAT??????? I'm shit on again. I'm so upset...and I fear the worst...I don't think like I can handle loosing the babies AGAIN!!!!!!!!!
Re: The whole story part 3 continued allmusic76: This is a very hard situation to handle it seems....
Well the first thing I would do... is try to keep your head about all of this. if you are confused about your lawyer's instructions I would try to discuss them with him. it's hard enough to follow the laws in one state let alone two. I imagine you have a lawyer in both states... how well are they cooperating? coordinating their efforts?
Re: The whole story part 3 continued artickittycat: My lawyer in NH is done, she can't do anymore...it's all in AL now. NH is out...I'll be down there asap...but my lawyer won't answer my question whether I can move into the house while he's there or not, and I need a place to live. I am frustrated and scared to death...How can my husband get away with all this with little to no reprecussions? It pisses me off...he can do whatever he wants...and I get $hit on....I would think the sooner I get down there the better my chances would be but my lawyer says stay put...I don't get it...I don't think going into the divorce hearing without living in the state would be the best thing...they aren't going to grant me custody if I don't live there....I wouldn't think...I am at the end of my rope and I'm slipping.
Re: The whole story part 3 continued allmusic76: well I will tell you this... the most important thing to think about right now is your kids... as best as you can..
I recently posted something about breakdowns
http://ojar.com/boards/index.php/topic,37086.0.html
try to prevent this. Stay in contact with close friends who know you very well. Stay in contact with people you trust will get you help if you need it. I speak from very painful and on going experience, that a breakdown is not something you see coming.
Re: The whole story part 3 continued Bluewolf030: I would call another lawyer and explain your situtation and ask them what you should do. Lawyers are just like any other profession there is good ones and bad ones, some who care and others who just want your money.
Generally the first consultation is free, call someone else just to get an opinion, maybe you will find a better lawyer in the process.
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