Why does it still hurt? spooky: Anyone else found themselves a year later looking for thier own love/sex life still bothered by the ex they despise with thier entire being dating? Why the hell is that?
Re: Why does it still hurt? ezydriver: Put simply, it is because you're not over them. It was a year ago today that me and my ex's main relationship came to an end. I'm still as bothered as any time thinking about her dating other men. I mean, OTHER MEN!! It cant be so.
It is because in your heart you still have feelings. Feelings take a long time to die. A lot of people have said feelings never die completely. They just change shape.
I was talking to my counsellor the other day. She mentioned that in her experience two years seem to be the given, standard time to get over a relationship.
I know thats generalised, but it makes sense. I have personally known people who have taken this long too. However, as long as it isnt like the agony of the initial few months, then its bearable, right?
Just stay strong and carry on with your grief. Think back one year, your grief now must be way way more bearable than back then. So, look forward one year and.......................... well, only you can picture that, but I'm guessing there is sunshine ahead. And you wont care if shes dating. In fact, you'll feel sorry for the other men.
Re: Why does it still hurt? spooky: *deleted*
Re: Why does it still hurt? goldman: Pride.
I'm going through it right now. I'm over him. I have no feelings for him in any way - unless you count disgust and annoyance. But the fact that he's getting ready to start a new family and is happily building a life chaps my ass.
He was the one that crapped things up. He was the one that put holes in my walls and spewed hate for 75% of our marriage. But he's the one that's found someone and I'm reading message boards at 11:30 at night.
It's pride and the unfairness of it all. I get it.
Re: Why does it still hurt? spooky: *deleted*
