Re: I Love Him spooky: It's very hard to let go. I'm sorry you feel the way you do. I wish I could help, but that's something that's relative to the person. You need to figure out what works best for you. I know that recounting the bad things helps though. Start there and see if you can find where to go from there. We're here when you need to vent or look for advice. Good luck.
Re: I Love Him trapped: Its good you guys are finding some common ground for the sake of the kids and your own well being...you need to take care of yourself with your health issues right now and hopefully he realizes that and is going to stop with the mindgames and hostility and all that crap.
It sometimes seems that when theyre being kind its harder to make sense of why things didnt work out, even though you tried with all you had..gave all you had. And you tried more than once L...you gave it a go several times. You forget about the betrayals and the deception and the cruelty or just dont want to look at it. You lose your clarity....you remember all the good stuff and the love feels as strong as ever. Its easy to forgive when you love someone that way.
Try to stay focused on you and your health right now baby...Im worried about YOU. SO sorry youre feeling forlorn about TB. Its such a sad, lonely place to be.
You know where to find me if you need to talk.
Big hugs again.
Re: I Love Him baffled!: Can't it be possible to love him but know you can't be with him?
When I realized that both were possible - it was one of the greatest days of my life... I loved my ex - but she and I were no longer together and wouldn't be again.
No more anger or games - I had to admit that part of me would always love her - but our time had come and gone...
Once I faced this acceptance the rest was all gravy... explore your feelings and see if it's in you to come to these terms.
I hope it works out - I know what a drag all this stuff is...
... and sorry if my post doesn't make much sense - I went out WAY to late last night.
Re: I Love Him jo: i love my ex i do he was my frist love i left him he was an abuser i took our son when i left he use to hit me for years i never told any1 i still love him i have not seen him in nearly 2 years hes not in contact with his son even though he did that to me i still love him i dwelled on what we could have had i am so much better now without him but feelings do not turn off like that it takes time you can fall in love easily but it takes a long time to fall out remember that.
we all wish we could be with the 1 for ever but it dose not end up like that 99% of the time u will find someone who will love you f or u treat you good.
thats all i want i am a lovely friendly decent person whos just waiting for that special someone it will happen maybe not in a year maybe not in 2 but it will 1 day gudluck
jo x
