Re: bad day today (its really over) Laura35: Even though I'm on the "other side" - I'm the one who did him wrong, that's precisely what I don't want to do, keep going back and forth and playing with his mind. I mean, when someone is confused, it's hard enough for them, but to make the other person equally confused I think makes it worse. So I think you need to let your wife know that she can't play cat and mouse with you and she needs to make up her mind and stick with what she decides.
... easy for me to speak...
Well actually not.
Re: bad day today (its really over) lumbeeman: [quote author=Laura35 link=topic=37520.msg404566#msg404566 date=1163806741">
Even though I'm on the "other side" - I'm the one who did him wrong, that's precisely what I don't want to do, keep going back and forth and playing with his mind. I mean, when someone is confused, it's hard enough for them, but to make the other person equally confused I think makes it worse. So I think you need to let your wife know that she can't play cat and mouse with you and she needs to make up her mind and stick with what she decides.
... easy for me to speak...
Well actually not.
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thanks for your reply,yes dont play with his mind, i can say she really did a mind f--k on me,ill never understand why it happened this way,but i was doing good , moving on and getting by and then bam she wants to work it out and this time she was different it seemed but the same result anyway,im not the first and wont be the last, i feel like my youth was wasted even though im only 33
Re: bad day today (its really over) could use any words of support right now lumbeeman: im i a fool, she calls today about her car, its in the shop, so i call her back later about the car, she asks me what im doing, i said i was watching amovie, she asks me did i want to hang out with her and the kids and go to the mall, i said ok i dont mind doing that,she could barely look me in the eyes today, i saw a look of sorrow on her face as i have from time to time, but i acted like nothing bothered me, i usually bring up something about us, but i didnt today. maybe i shouldve said no thank you, but hell i was bored and she offered to buy lunch , so i went
Re: bad day today (its really over) could use any words of support right now idocsteve: Lumbee,
As hard as it may sound, you gotta stay away from her. This back and forth, and limited contact with her is only keeping you down. Limit the contact to matters relating to the children only. It will hurt at first but you will be so much better off in the long run. You can't start healing until you do this. Maybe get in touch with some old friends that you haven't talked to in a while. Keep busy. Stop hoping she will come back for good.
Re: bad day today (its really over) could use any words of support right now lumbeeman: today i just decided to do what ive been wanting to do anyway, i will rely on my faith in this situation, whatever is meant to be will be, i have no control over anyone or anything except myself.its hard and it hurtslike hell, but one thing i know for certain NOTHING LASTS FOREVER not even heart ache or pain
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