Still together physically, but a million miles apart in my heart Bree: It hurts! To lay next to the man I love with all my heart and not feel a connection anymore. Hell, I'm the one trying to leave, get out and I'm the one who is still head over heals for this man. I still feel he is my "the one". I don't feel I'm his "the one" even though we are married, so what?! A piece of paper is nothing, it's the vows behind it that matter! I feel he loves me like a dear friend or family, but that's not enough for me. Maybe it's that we've been through too much and it's me. I don't know anymore. I just hate the way I feel about us.
I've been giving up lately on our marriage being what I want it to be. Wanting it to mean the same thing to him as it does to me.
I want nothing more thant to work it out and be with this man forever and at the same time everything in me says to run. Get out. Get away from this constant pain and torture of feeling this way.
I'm stuck, frozen, angry and through it all I still love him. Why????????????????????? There's no reason I should still love him the way I do.
Re: Still together physically, but a million miles apart in my heart Deadinside: Maybe the way he is expressing his love to you is just not the way you recognize it as love. Try reading the book, The Five Languages of Love. It is an awsome book about how each of us process and feel "love".
Having been through a divorce and wishing that things in my life had gone differently, I hate it when I see a post like this. If there hasn't been any cheating or abuse, then work on your marriage!! Don't throw it away without exhausting every option especially if you really think he is the one.
Re: Still together physically, but a million miles apart in my heart mariher: I'm not sure if I can say anything reassuring, but I'll tell you what I did since I felt the same way you feel now.
After 10 years, my relationship got to the point where it just wasn't that type of "love" anymore and we grew apart more and more everyday. Eventually I did end up walking away from my relationship. We have a child together which did not make it any easier, but I know it was for the best b/c we were happier being apart than being together.
