Re: love vs. attachment Mooneyes: It is hard to tell the difference at first. But attachment is more like a habit or an addiciton, and it can be replaced. In fact I think it is why there are so many rebound relationships... people try to form attachments elsewhere. It is very important to be cognative of this process so you can try to from healthier attachments. Some good things people do is focus more on their health, like going to the gym regularly. Putting effort into yourself instead of other people for awhile.
It took a long time but I am no longer attached to my ex. Love however is another story. I think I will always love him. But you can learn to let go. Love is not the only thing necessary to have a relationship with someone. Co-dependency is an appropriate topic to read about when thinking about attachment and boundary issues. There is alot out there on the subject. I also think this is a good topic for regular counseling. It doesn't just go away overnight.
Keep thinking.. it is good.
Re: love vs. attachment lld: There's a great song called Devotion by Tracy Chapman whose lyrics are running through my head:
If I am right
If I can be
Constant and faithful
You'll find me
In my devotion
In my devotion
What if you find a fault
Between my purpose and my deeds
And deem me beyond salvation
Judge me to be unworthy
Of your devotion
Of your devotion
If this be obsession deliver me
A passing infatuation deliver me
A feeling lacking in purity deliver me
A test of fidelity deliver me
Deliver me
Deliver me
What if I should find
You're no good for me
What if I can't be strong enough
What if I can't break free
Of my devotion
Of my devotion
I feel that the devotion in the song is a sort of attachment...I don't know how many of you out there feel that once you are committed to something you will work very hard at it - this is how I always saw marriage. With all of the problems I had in my marriage, I think that eventually I will be grateful that my husband left so that I am free of my devotion/attachment to him - but it sure does hurt in the meantime -
Re: love vs. attachment allmusic76: to me...attachment is wanting to be with someone regardless of their feelings. Love, is letting them go, because we want them to be happy.
Re: love vs. attachment crushedman: love is never having to say your sorry
attachment is the answer to the following riddle- name the word that is not a word that leavers use as an excuse for leaving
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Re: love vs. attachment kimberly: Ask yourself, were you really that happy when you were in the relationship? I know I was'nt but time has this way of erasing all the crap and heartache and replacing it with this glorified version. I knew it was attachment because when I did see him to discuss things, he irritated me immediately and it occured to me I wanted my comfort zone back- not actually him.
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