Remaining friends??? mmm555: I broke up with my live-in BF of 7 years just last year. We met when I was 17. It was a horrible breakup, he has a drinking problem. We didn't talk for months. But now he wants to be friends. He says I'm his best friend and that he can't live without me in his life. BTW he has a new GF, I'm dating a lot, and there is no way I would EVER get back together with him. But every time I think I've gotten over him and I'm ok, I see him or talk to him, and we have such a great time. Then, when we say goodbye, I get horribly depressed for a few days. It's as if I lose him all over again. I know I'm better off without him, so why is it that he affects me this way? Why am I so sad? Is it because he was such a big part of my life and I miss that comfort?
Is there any way for ex's to remain friends, or am I just torturing myself and reliving the same hurt? Should I never see him again?
Re: Remaining friends??? Fendann: My exwife and I have been trying the "friends" thing for quite some time now...didn't work two years ago, and it's really not working now....
From my experience, it just doesn't work.
Re: Remaining friends??? smokin: you can try, but id rather take a nail gun shot to my "nads" then to even say hi to my ex........
Re: Remaining friends??? alonewith2: It depends on a number of factors. How removed are you both from the situation and what do you both hope to accomplish from the friendship? I believe it could work, but it'll never be a "best friends" sort of friendship. There's bound to be limits on topics of conversation, etc that would prevent it from being more.
Re: Remaining friends??? Wherezmygun: me and my STBX are giveing the "being friends" a real shot. mainly for our kids and the fact that we both care alot about each other, she just does not have the love for me she should you know the IN LOVE feeling. so i think that if you try and make it work and get pasted the hirt and the pain you can make it work, but if your not willing to let the other pserson move on then yea its hopeless.
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