Remaining friends??? mmm555: I broke up with my live-in BF of 7 years just last year. We met when I was 17. It was a horrible breakup, he has a drinking problem. We didn't talk for months. But now he wants to be friends. He says I'm his best friend and that he can't live without me in his life. BTW he has a new GF, I'm dating a lot, and there is no way I would EVER get back together with him. But every time I think I've gotten over him and I'm ok, I see him or talk to him, and we have such a great time. Then, when we say goodbye, I get horribly depressed for a few days. It's as if I lose him all over again. I know I'm better off without him, so why is it that he affects me this way? Why am I so sad? Is it because he was such a big part of my life and I miss that comfort?
Is there any way for ex's to remain friends, or am I just torturing myself and reliving the same hurt? Should I never see him again?
Re: Remaining friends??? Fendann: My exwife and I have been trying the "friends" thing for quite some time now...didn't work two years ago, and it's really not working now....
From my experience, it just doesn't work.
Re: Remaining friends??? jadedangel: [color=navy"> I'm with the ... it depends on the factors. First -- I think it depends alot of what you can handle and what he can handle ... if you truly can be just friends. If it ended badly ... probably not the best situation to beginning a 'friendship' ...
Though with that said .... I don't feel it's hopeless at all ... in fact -- me and my ex are actually really good friends right now .. We talk about more things now than we have for a long time. We keep each other up on our lives ... and talk about things I never thought we would talk about again. He was my best friend when I was with him .. and it took alot to get to where we are -- so you need to decide if it's worth the price. He's changed ... I can't deny that -- but, I like knowing what's going on in the life of someone who had such a huge impact in my life. So -- it can work ...
Don't get me wrong .. I have a few ex's that would never put the effort into it -- but if you truly want to make it work ... it's possible.[/color">
Re: Remaining friends??? smokin: you can try, but id rather take a nail gun shot to my "nads" then to even say hi to my ex........
Re: Remaining friends??? alonewith2: It depends on a number of factors. How removed are you both from the situation and what do you both hope to accomplish from the friendship? I believe it could work, but it'll never be a "best friends" sort of friendship. There's bound to be limits on topics of conversation, etc that would prevent it from being more.
