The Cheating Wife burned1: My wife and I have only been married a few years but dated for much longer. Our relationship has always been rocky but I have tried very hard to be a good husband. Not long ago she began to be very distant and cold. I grew very suspicious and discovered she had posted an ad on a dating website and was speaking to other people. After more investigation I found she was essentially seeing someone. I am and was devastated-I go around every minute of every day with a huge stone in my stomache that I can't shake out. Now my attorney says I have to stay a while to collect evidence of her cheating. So I have been playing nice but it is very hard when you know she is thinking about someone else yet is still nice to your face. I am still very much in love with her and we have discussed seperation numerous times to no avail but now I must wait and indeterminate amount of time in this hell for her to screw up so I can get away from her-all the while I still want to be close to her because it makes me fell better. What the hell is wrong with me?? If anybody has any advice feel free to pm me. I am really stuck and through it all-if she came to me right now and told me everything and begged me to keep her I probably would-but she will never do it......
Re: The Cheating Wife newts: Hi Burned,
Welcome to Ojar. You asked the question "what is wrong" with you and I would have to turn that around and ask what is wrong with her?
Why is your attorney putting you through this hell - So you get a better divorce settlement? No amount of money or material possessions is worth the pain and heartache you are going through now.
I would suggest you trial a separation... go to marraige counseling and if you want her back, hopefully this will allow her to sort out her true feelings for you.
Nobody deserves to with with a wife/husband who has joined a dating site while they are married! I think the fact that she has an active profile on this site should be enough evidence for your attorney.
You have come to the right place burned and we will try to make it a little easier for you. Keep posting.
Re: The Cheating Wife burned1: Thanks for the advice. The only problem is I stand to lose a lot if I don't have good grounds for divorce. The time frame is not an issue-now it is very short. The issue is I still love her and I really wanted things to be differrent. If I hated her then it would be no problem but I seek her affection so much right now that it makes things harder on me. When she gives me attention I fell on top of the world and the other problems fall away for a short time. I certaintly have not been the best husband buy far but I never thought I would be stabbed in the heart with this problem. I have difficulty dealing with normal life right now because this is always on my mind...
Re: The Cheating Wife newts: Burned,
If you want to make it work, I would suggest marriage counseling - would she go to counseling with you?
Re: The Cheating Wife ajw: You have to confront her....what your doing now is not helping,she is being deceitful and cheating and you are being deceitful too.You say you still love her but how is pretending that you dont know whats going on going to help your relationship.
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