Re: Somebody slap me icwtsmnl: yeah, its hard to hold on to the anger. for anyone. eventually it wears off from the emotional side and moves over to the logical side of us. so we "know" they've wronged us or whatever, but it leaves our emotional side empty. so we fill that with the positive feelings we had.
would you remind me of your story? did he leave for someone else? its hard to keep track of everyone's situation here.
Re: Somebody slap me surprised: my story is pretty basic. we were together for ten years (since we were 18) and were about to move back in together when he told me he wasn't happy with the path we were taking. basically i wanted kids eventually and he wasn't sure if he did. so that's about it. no cheating, no abuse, no horrible mistreatment. he was and is a great guy, we just can't seem to come to terms on what we want out of the future. that's why it's so hard for me to let go, i feel like, i know we still love each other, so maybe there's still a chance that will prevail.
Re: Somebody slap me icwtsmnl: how long have you been apart?
(btw, my ex didn't want kids either. and i did. but we weren't even married yet)
Re: Somebody slap me surprised: we weren't married either, but 10 years seemed like a long time. and i just started school again, so it's not like i want kids now. but he said the idea of the future i wanted made him feel trapped. we've been apart since august, we tried to get back together last month, he got all freaked out again. sometimes i think he just needs time on his own, but i don't know. i don't really know much of your story either.
Re: Somebody slap me icwtsmnl: i work with him. i know, don't lecture me. :) we were on again/off again for almost a year and a half. we have a great time together and an awesome chemistry. but we fought a lot. we had our final break up 3 weeks ago. still have to see him eveyr day. its really hard. i'm bitter that i felt forced to end it because he wasn't giving me the things i mentioned. which were really important to me. sometimes i question whether it was really that bad, but then i remember how i was made to feel about those things.
your situation sounds really painful cause there was no abuse, cheating, etc. i can understand why you'd be stuck in "hopeful" mode.
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