When you know its over, TJsDAD: Hello to all ,
I think I just realized my marriage is really over. Wife left 2 monthes ago , she left to llive with a roommate who is a guy..At first she was telling me he was just a friend , I never believed that. Well , I over heard a conversation they were having , my son forgot to close her cell phone when were done talking , so I eavesdropped and heard things that confirmed what I already suspected.
We were married 11 years and together 13. I have the greatest 4 year old. She left because she was no longer happy. Our marriage was not perfect , but I would never have left. She has moved on..I am struggling daily , dealing witht the fact she is now sleeping with another man. I took her less than 2 months to get over me. I think she had this planned for a while.
This sucks...I no longer get to see my son everyday because of her actions. I thought we would grow old together , no I just feel like I am growing old.
I really want my wife back , maybe in time she will see the grass is not always greener. Maybe she wont?
So my question to you all is...When you know it's over...what did you do??
How did you deal with the fact he/she may never come back??
TJsDAD
Re: When you know its over, smokin: welcome, sorry your here...........
when i realized it was over i went on a long drinking spree when i didnt have my kids....
the green grass is hard. our green and their green may be different.......try to find a hobby or something you like to do..............
do you have a custody agreement? if not get working on it right now.
sorry your here! GTM
Re: When you know its over, ebl: who knows if it's really over. She might find out later that the grass isn't necessarily greener on that other side. But do get the custody agreement - file for divorce, if she hasn't already. That'll be the wake up call she'll need.
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So my question to you all is...When you know it's over...what did you do??
How did you deal with the fact he/she may never come back??
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Hi Tjsdad. Welcome, and sorry you're dealing with this. Hang in there man.
To your question. When I finally realized my ex wasn't coming back I sank into a deep, dark hole for 7 months. Fortunately I could afford to this, I have no kids and my occupations allows me some flexibility...so I fell completely apart.
After 7 months I finally accepted that my ex was never coming back. So you know what I did? I started planning my life as a single man. I started making goals for my life, not our life. I started believing that I could truly be happy without this woman in my life. I began to understand that my exwife didn't make me happy, couldn't make me happy. I made my life my own, my goals my own, my happiness my own, my future my own....you get the picture.
So that's the process I underwent. Good luck to you on your journey. It's a rollercoaster ride, but the end is there although perhaps not in sight. Take care.
