Re: I need advice kimberly: On second thought, do it. Like you said, keep it friendly but brief. "Merry Christmas, happy new year", but thats all. That way you can stop wondering if it was you that prevented a reconciliation. You are in a sense "opening the lines of communication", you are sort of saying "hey, I'm in a better place (emotionally) and can handle hearing from you. DO NOT follow up on the card though. Send it and let it go................if you hear from him, great! If you don't get a reply of any kind then you know to just let it go. If you are sending it just in hopes of a reply..............and don't get one , will this set your recovery back? If you can honestly say you won't be waiting by the phone or checking your e-mail every 5 minutes after you send the card, then do it. It's natural to want a reply- just don't be too upset if you don't get one. Maybe if nothing else, this will provide closure for you.
Re: I need advice allmusic76: I think that is very noble, and helpful, but unfortunately I don't think it's actually good for you. Since you have moved on, you really shouldn't be worried about whether he thinks you are angry or not.
Re: I need advice sheeps: [quote author=torn-n-2 link=topic=37596.msg405782#msg405782 date=1164033767">
Send it and let it go................if you hear from him, great! If you don't get a reply of any kind then you know to just let it go. [/quote">
This makes no sense to me...he left you. It's already gone. You just need to accept it. It's a harsh truth, but truth it is.
Re: I need advice anewday: I was thinking of sending a generic holiday card to him. Nothing sappy at all. At the most it would say, "I hope you have a nice holiday".
Why am I sending it? Maybe it would be a plea, but my fear is this. When t all went down there were times that he would try to talk to me but I was so hurt that I was unapproachable. Now that I am not as angry, my though is that sending the card would be a way of letting him know that I am not angry anymore. If he wants to contact me he can but he doesn't have to. I guess because I would feel guilty having in the back of my mind that I stood in the way of reconsiliation when all I had to do wasopen the lines of communication.
Re: I need advice kimberly: My point is, she obviously feels there was no closure. She deserves at least that. Sending this card can be a way to do that.
