Re: I need advice kimberly: Depends on how you look at it. A simple holiday greeting card would show that you are caring and thoughtful. As long as it wasn't a sappy long letter begging to get back together, what would it hurt? If you don't intend it to be anything more than a christmas card greeting, go for it. It would send the message that you are self confident and have moved on but thought it would be a nice gesture. You were married after all.
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My point is, she obviously feels there was no closure. She deserves at least that. Sending this card can be a way to do that.
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Yes - you explained it in a way I couldn't. I was having trouble finding the words. I need closure. If he doesn't reply then I know it wasn't me who prevented reconsiliation. If he does reply then I can take it from there. But I wouldn't want to file the paperwork never knowing if I could have done something else.
Since I have posted this I have dont a lot of thinking about it and I am probably going to send him a card.
I appreciate all the advice that was given because it helped me see it from another point of view. I feel more prepared now.
Thank you so much for your help. I'll keep you updated.
