Re: All the Drugs to Fix peoples Moods * I Think are WAY Overprescribed Topaz: I have friends who are bi-polar who need their meds to get through life. They would love nothing more than to not take meds but they recognize that for the time being, medication is a necessity. Needless to say, they are good, loving people because that is their nature, and the medications help them to be more like themselves. I don't know your ex-wife, Freckles, and I probably never will, but maybe she has some serious problems that she's not prepared or able to handle, and that's why she displays so many troublesome behaviors.
While I am not a Christian at the moment, I was raised one, and I believe that the Christian thing for you to do would be to forgive her, Freckles. And then let her go. You are still very angry at her, I think, and the anger is keeping you from moving on with your life and meeting someone who will appreciate what you have to offer.
Let it go! You know she has problems. You don't have to fix her, and you can't, because she's not ready to be fixed.
I think it's time for you to stop obsessing on all of your ex-wife's problems and flaws and let her go - with kindness and forgiveness, if possible.
Re: All the Drugs to Fix peoples Moods * I Think are WAY Overprescribed yella: You said she wasn't like that in the beginning of the marriage, but she all of a sudden turned into one?
Like I said, I think she had a reason to become one. Maybe you need to take a look at yourself for a change.
Re: All the Drugs to Fix peoples Moods * I Think are WAY Overprescribed Freckles: [quote author=Smiley link=topic=37615.msg405973#msg405973 date=1164046185">
You said she wasn't like that in the beginning of the marriage, but she all of a sudden turned into one?
Like I said, I think she had a reason to become one. Maybe you need to take a look at yourself for a change.
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First Year of Marrage she did not do that. BEFORE She married me She had just Quit that and married ME to get away from that so Her son would not be like that.
Her Son Embraced that stuff
So Why should she remain Sober because the ONLY reson she quit all that was so her son would not do that stuff
I call it * The BIG Mess
In my Looking at ME into what *I* did wrong was thinking that *I* would be a Big enought influence on HER and Him so that I would have a Christian Family that would go to Church with me on Sundays
The MAIN thing *I* did wrong was Marry someone before really getting to know them.
What s on the Surface is just that Surface. Pretty and Nice.
You have to dig DEEP in a Relatsonship to know if its a Thin layer of Pretty over *Bad*
Instead of *Pretty* all the way through.
Anyways I hope She somehow quits all that stuff or if not that She is happy in her own way whatever she does with her life.
:)
Re: All the Drugs to Fix peoples Moods * I Think are WAY Overprescribed BobFromAcctg: Easy Freck...you are painting with a VERY wide brush.
The pills are not designed to just feel better, they are designed for those that can not get out of bed because of the depression. I'm fairly certain you have not experienced that kind of grief or you would not have such a casual opinion of such things.
Try burying one of your children and then have to get up the next day and go to work. Two days later having your two year old son need brain surgery. The grief is enough to break your back.
To some people Freck (myself included) those pills have kept me alive.
Re: All the Drugs to Fix peoples Moods * I Think are WAY Overprescribed yella: [quote author=Freckles link=topic=37615.msg405977#msg405977 date=1164046858">
First Year of Marrage she did not do that. BEFORE She married me She had just Quit that and married ME to get away from that so Her son would not be like that.
The MAIN thing *I* did wrong was Marry someone before really getting to know them.
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You married her knowing she was like this, and thinking you can change her, when in fact the marriage didn't stop it, and proabably made it worse.
You knew her well enough to marry her and you knew she had this problem, and knew why she married you.
Stop blaming her, and focus on your own mistakes. You're just as much to blame here. You knew she was an addict, and you foolishly thought that marriage was going to change her. Now you blame her for making your life hell?
If I were you, I drop the blame and just focus on your own life. You're divorced now, let it go.
No amount of Christian anything was going to change her. If that were true, no one would be addicted to anything. ::)
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