Move on! Move on! MOVE ON!!! MEP2006: Why can't I get this through my head? My ex won't even look at me, much less talk to me. I feel stuck here! Like I can't move on because there was never any closure. He just up and left and now he's smug and condescending and I just want to know what *I* did to make him act like towards me! He lied, he cheated, he betrayed me, he walked away from me and my son... without even looking back. And yet *I'M* guilty of something ....
Re: Move on! Move on! MOVE ON!!! tripny2k6: You're not guilty of anything but caring. It sucks, and I know you cant see it now, but you're the better person.
Re: Move on! Move on! MOVE ON!!! johnnzd: [quote author=MEP2006 link=topic=38001.msg410625#msg410625 date=1164729542">
and I just want to know what *I* did to make him act like towards me! He lied, he cheated, he betrayed me, he walked away from me and my son... without even looking back. And yet *I'M* guilty of something ....
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He's either feeling extremely guilty or an a#$hole, or maybe a bit of both. Either way, what he did or does doesn't define you. You are the stronger one. Know that everyday you continue to better yourself for your child & the ones around you. Take care.
Re: Move on! Move on! MOVE ON!!! Hopeless: I agree with the above comments. My XW did the same thing. Walked away with no attempt at anything. Been over a year now, and I still feel the same way you do. Left holding the bag. It will take a while to go away, but it does dimish over time. I still have the same feelings you do on this. Just last night I found myself apologizing to god for letting him down. What is that all about?
Keep the faith and let him run. If it was meant to be then it will be, if not, then you know in your heart that you will be fine without him.
You have nothing to feel guilty about, but I am not going to tell you how to feel. Just try to imagine that your ex has been abducted by aliens and the man you once knew is dead. That has made things easier for me. When I know she is with the OM, I know that the woman I was married too is long since gone and buried in my heart. I mourn the loss, but not the events of the present.
Just my .02
