Re: I want to ask you why you are so mean to me, but I must stay strong! HoldingPattern: I'm sorry Shelly. I know how bad it hurts too. My stbx just brought back all those painful feelings with a discussion we were having tonight. He began reading a new book I just bought called DivorceBusting and he started paraphrasing it to meet his own needs. I was so angry he had the ballz to do that!!! I wish he could just read it for what it offers, instead of trying to justify his own actions. It's easy for him to want to be friends and co-parent......he's the one that wants the Divorce. Ok, I'm rambling but I just wanted to let you know that I've asked myself those same questions Shelly, and yes, they do already answer themselves.
