ug ... myspace ... broken_saint: well guess what, i was doing just fine... in fact, i was doing perfectly great. had a dream the other night that really got my curiousity going but in the end i think i finally got some answers.
so i checked on myspace to see if i could find the x using an alternate email address that she thought i didnt know about (stupid i know, but i figured i was strong enough at this point to take a peek). i knew she had a page but it was private but this time i checked the search engines for cached versions of the page. well turns out i found one from when we were in the "break-up" process back earlier this year. (april) anyhow, her page had guys having all over her. comments about guys they were going to meet up with ... etc ... she was quite the party "ms have fun" chic if you know what i mean. pictures of her skimpped out in outfits. ok so i think you guys get the point ...
SO! im gonna have to say that i now have a pretty solid idea of why the woman i thought i knew, for nine worthless years, left for no reason.
i heard and read about these sort of things alot... typically, the guy / girl thinks they're missing out on life (as if the partner was ridiculously no fun at all) so they leave the relationship and go out and have fun fun fun... gets mixed up in other flings, and so on. as you can tell in my ramblings, i'm a bit pissed off... why? cuz umm she made me believe i was to blame, i was at fault as to why she just left ... made me feel guilty for stupid shit that happened over a blue moon ago... i think an apology goes without saying. some girls have nerve u know?
on the other hand, i am still human, i have a bigger heart than she and the fact that i spent so much time with her and was dropped in a second without an explaination says how enough. i have not heard one peep from her since she kicked me out of her life. that was about 7 months ago
guys help me out here.... whats the usual story with these types? what happens to them in the end? i know ALOT of people here wonder the same ...
Re: ug ... myspace ... ebl: wow, your story sounds soo much like mine. My husband left me 7 months ago. We were together for 10 years. He never once told me that he was unhappy. One day, I just found two love letters from his older new coworker. After I found the letters, he turned hostile towards me - did a complete 180 in attitude, and a week later, he was gone. A week after that, he filed for divorce, and here I am 7 months later, in the midst of divorce proceedings.
Funny thing is that before he left, he wanted a truck, his own place, he wanted to wear jean jackets with the sleeves cut off, things like that. After being a responsible 33 year old, he reverted back to High School.
That was the end of my marriage - his midlife crisis. Yet, he of course, he blamed me for everything and in front of his parents, I'm now the anti christ.
His mid life crisis hit me like a ton of bricks, this whole thing - very sudden, and un announced. Never saw it coming. I thought we were happily married.
So I understand perfectly where you are coming from. Has anyone of you filed for divorce?
Re: ug ... myspace ... bamacannon: I completely feel your pain, I'm in the same boat. My wife went to Korea to her new military assignment and decided she liked the freedom and attention of all the men over there withing 2 weeks of being there. Shes already got a new man. Your not alone. It hurts, I know, wish I could say something to help though. Sorry
Re: ug ... myspace ... HoldingPattern: ebl & broken saint, both your stories could be mine. Although mine keeps insisting there is no other woman involved. He told me he wanted a divorce after 10 years together (married 9) and he never gave me a warning either. I too, thought we are happy...the occasional arguments, but nothing major. Wow, was I blindsided. It really sucks when it happens like that because it catches you so offguard. Anyway sorry to hear about what you found broken saint. It will all come back to haunt her!
Re: ug ... myspace ... ebl: I know, Holding, I also read your story a while back, and I couldn't believe my eyes :o well, maybe I did.. lol
Just 7 months ago, I used to think that couples divorced because they had lots of fights, etc. But now I know better - I know that either the husband or the wife can be totally blindsided - without warning, like a sudden evil earthquake from hell. Not only is it a bad wake up call from ignorance, but it also hurts terribly. :'(
and you bamacannon - what a nightmare!
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