Re: ug ... myspace ... sosad05: Hey there, this is a pretty different perspective then others listed. But, here is my opinion.
Most of us in here are in our late 20s early 30s. It seems most of us got married pretty young. I know I did. I was 20. You think you know so much at such a young age.
I think what happens is something like a 1/4 life crisis. Perhaps the responsibility becomes overwhelming. When many of us should have been living the "crazy/fun" days in our early 20s instead we were playing house.
This certainly does not justify cheating or making the other party feel at fault. Its something within the person going through it. They suddenly feel "old." They want to go back to being young. In the meantime, they throw away their marriage and dont even realize what they are losing until its gone.
What do I think happens of these people?? They either beg the other spouse to take them back or they live a life of regret masking it with alcohol. No one can go on partying and having fun forever.
Re: ug ... myspace ... ebl: do you really think that they regret it, sosad? Sometimes I feel with such low-self esteem, like that there are soo many girls out there for my husband to find, girls better than I was.... :'(
does anyone here feel the same way?? ???
Re: ug ... myspace ... broken_saint: heya guys, thanks so much for the input. yesterday wasnt so bad, as of today im much better. i guess i was taken back by the fact that she made me feel unbelievably guilty about the HER wanting to leave and i fed into it at that time and now here it is... the truth finally comes out from me being a bit curious. so i find out that she was partying with the "men" most of the time and she got a taste of that lifestyle and decided to throw me overboard ... wtf?
if you all followed my story, her mother was diagnosed with breast cancer at the very same that time this was going on .... uhg, what a horrible bitch ...
sosad05, your insight was very helpful in getting a very good idea about these types. just sux that people like me have to deal with them first hand (my heart goes out to those who have filled my shoes)
... thank you that.
anyone else have any comments?
Re: ug ... myspace ... freakshow: whats the usual story with these types? what happens to them in the end?
I identify with your words and must tell you, Karma is a real Bitc* !!!
My ex is now having dreams that satan is speaking to him, when looking something like this up in one of those "dream dictionaries" it means he is doing evil and wronging another person. (that would be ME he is wronging)
That is how the end up...tortured mentally. I hope for your sake you get some closure and satisfaction on this as I know it is mentally rough.
Hang in there!!! Cause you may never know how she is suffering and paying the price BUT rest assured she will. We always do.
*HUGS*
Re: ug ... myspace ... HoldingPattern: See in my case, I don't want my stbx to suffer, and I'm sad knowing he may someday regret his decision to end our marriage and break up our family. I am angry at him for what it will do to the kids, but because I still have love for him and care about him, I don't wish him harm. Now, I'm not saying I will let him walk on me like a doormat. I am being assertive and protecting myself and our childrens interests....but I don't want to destroy him or see him tortured either. I know, I must be insane!
