Why we tend to want to "couple up" katbuttkid: This thread is not in opposition to Batman's thread, but more to explore the same topic.
I wanted to say this IN the thread, but got carried away on another tangent.
So, y'all know I'm in nursing school and I'm "supa smawt" right? (joke).
anyway, we have to study some psychology and nursing uses Erickson's Stages of Development as a means to help further understand our patients.
And like Batman, I have been thinking some very similar thoughts, but in this context of Psychological development and social development.
I'll list the stages, but before I do, here is a run down on the basics: Erikson's stages of psychosocial development describes eight developmental stages through which a healthily developing human should pass from infancy to late adulthood. In each stage the person confronts, and hopefully masters, new challenges. Each stage builds on the successful completion of earlier stages. The challenges of stages not successfully completed may be expected to reappear as problems in the future.
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Re: Why we tend to want to "couple up" doodlesmore: this is interesting actually.....i was waiting for someone who knew about this to make a statement. I have not studied about this in school yet and am curious about the human mind and and what makes us tick....so to speak.
Re: Why we tend to want to "couple up" katbuttkid: Trust vs. Mistrust (birth-12 months Infancy)
Autonomy vs. Shame & doubt (1-3 Younger Years)
Initiative vs. Guilt (3-5 early childhood)
Industry vs. Inferiority (6-10 Middle childhood)
Identity vs. Role Confusion (11-18 Adolescence)
Intimacy vs. Isolation (18-34 Early Adulthood)
Generativity vs. Stagnation (35-60 Middle adulthood)
Ego integrity vs. despair (60 years-death Later Adulthood)
this is just a guideline. The exact ages aren't exact, and in maybe need updated to go with the times...
But anyway. most of us here are in early adulthood and are dealing with questions of Intimacy vs. Isolation. These are the extremes. Most of us have this more as a "Should I date, or live the singe life?"
its not so much "should I become a monk/nun, or become a prostitute" right?
Anyway, the idea is that if these stages (presented as pyschological "crises" set up as issues in "vs." aren't handled well, we are more apt to fail at the next phase.
This is why we feel we must master. And Batman, I think you said it perfectly when you said "it's like dating is a religion and the married people are the "saved"!"
It's not because of Erickson that we feel this way, but he did lots of tests on lots of people and found it to be true. If you can call psychology a science (some do, some don't) and He used the Scientific Method to test his hypothesis, then you can say we are "hard wired" to do this, at this time, and if we don't, it means trouble later on.
Side note: Erickson was careful not to judge which side of the Vs. to be on. Merely that these are issues, and we all deal with them, and we all choose one or the other.
For the infants, it's easy to say that trust vs mistrust... well, you want them to trust, so you think it means if they learn mistrust they fail.... and it's true-- that if ALL they embrace is mistrust, they will have problems later....but babies also need to learn about mistrust because it helps their understanding of trusting be more thorough.
Re: Why we tend to want to "couple up" katbuttkid: O cool, Doodlesmore.
I don't really know much about it, but it really is helpful as a nurse to sorta know where the patient is at psychosocially. Helps us relate to them more, plan their patient teaching, speak to them on their level.
Anyway, here is what it says about Early Adulthood:
Body and ego must be masters of organ modes and of the other nuclear conflicts in order to face the fear of ego loss in situations which call for self-abandon. The avoidance of these experiences leads to isolation and self-absorption. The counterpart of intimacy is distantiation, which is the readiness to isolate and destroy forces and people whose essence seems dangerous to one's own. Now true genitality can fully develop. The danger at this stage is isolation, which can lead to severe character problems.
Re: Why we tend to want to "couple up" katbuttkid: And is further illustrated as:
Central Task: Caregiving
Positive Outcome: Form close relationships and share with others
Ego Quality: Love
Definition: Capacity for mutuality that transcends childhood dependency
Developmental Task: Stable relationships; Child bearing; Work etc.
Significant Relations: Marital partner, friends.
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