Re: Why we tend to want to "couple up" doodlesmore: tree....that is actually very very interesting. ty for sharing that...i hope more people read it and gain some understanding from it :)
Re: Why we tend to want to "couple up" sheydp: Actually... if you look at these "early" developmentalists a bit closer, you will notice that their studies were primarily on boys/men, and the "male" system of "normal" was applied. Example - women are (this is very general!!!) taught that we need a host of interpersonal relationships - family, friends, SO, children - with varying levels of intimacy. We are (supposedly) taught that everyone is interconnected and that we should have multiple forms of support for the rough times. Men are (again supposedly) taught to be "independent" "self-sufficient" and form few and not very close bonds (except perhaps with an SO, and more recently, their children). Even Erickson's intimacy is not quite the version of intimacy feminist interconnectedness would be talking about.
So... If men are taught that they should be independent first, and men's development is considered "normal" - there is a lot of conflict within the intimacy category, since men as he says "face the fear of ego loss in situations which call for self-abandon". Being independent rather than interdependent can lead to difficulty with intimacy issues, and people feeling afraid and a bit "abnormal" when they are attempting to form close connections - particularly men.
Now - that is just kinda a side topic - and VERY generalist, but I find the idea very interesting, particularly as we begin to or look to form intimate bonds following a break-up.
Shey
Re: Why we tend to want to "couple up" Inkedmp: this thread is way to complex for my febale mind, i think i need more eduaction to understand it
Re: Why we tend to want to "couple up" superwife: [quote author=tree link=topic=38032.msg411145#msg411145 date=1164763844">
So, y'all know I'm in nursing school and I'm "supa smawt" right? (joke)
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You must be girl, to be in nursing school. And you must especially "wicked smawt" if you have a prof like me ;)
You hit the nail on the head (and I'm glad to see your studies are paying off). You are now amongst those who overanalyze everyone you meet, including your own self, I'm sure :D
Re: Why we tend to want to "couple up" katbuttkid: hey SC, are you an esteemed professor of nursing?
LOL
Ihad no idea!
Now I feel like I'm being graded at Ojar. Great.
::)
So, did you start thinking you and other people close to you have certain things maybe wrong with them too? I swear, I sit in lecture and learn about the different anemias, and I think "That's like ME. I think I have that!" or in endocrine and think "Yeah, my son is a candidate for that. I should ahve him checked out" Ugh.
But yeah, this stuff makes me think. So Batman's post was right up my alley.
I am not currently dating, but I know soon enough I'll be doing it again-- just for kicks.
It's sorta dumb for me to "date" since I really don't beleive dating is the way I'll meet a man I want to have a relationship with. But it's like it's something to do.
And, I guess, who knows what will happen?
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