I saw her today..... johnnzd:
It's like looking at a lottery ticket worth a million dollars that had to be redeemed yesterday. We both seemed to have the look of what could have been in each others eyes. The love just isn't there anymore. I'm sad about that. I have made so much progress, but sometimes you need to pay homage to what once was. I still want the best for her, I just don't have the love for her the way I did. Maybe we were to young, to idealistic, to immature for the throws of love. It is amazing how many emotions can run through instantaniously. Love, lust, disgust, anger, jealousy, humiliation all in one fleating second.
I knew I was going to see her today & wore something she picked out for me back when. Was I trying to show her what she is missing...maybe. Show her that I am OK.... yes. Sometimes I think we can overcome.... but that just isn't reality. I know we need to go our seperate ways. But my knowledge & emotions have never really seen eye to eye.
Re: I saw her today..... Lumpy: [quote author=johnnzd link=topic=38034.msg411162#msg411162 date=1164764736">
I know we need to go our seperate ways. But my knowledge & emotions have never really seen eye to eye.
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Story of my life. The brain and heart just don't sync up very well sometimes.
Re: I saw her today..... HoldingPattern: Hey guys, I'm in need of some male opinions. You guys seem ok at voicing your feelings......why is it so difficult for my stbx to voice his? Is it just me (the jilted one?) or do ya think some guys just have a problem with it in general?
Re: I saw her today..... johnnzd: [quote author=HoldingPattern link=topic=38034.msg411180#msg411180 date=1164765528">
why is it so difficult for my stbx to voice his? Is it just me (the jilted one?) or do ya think some guys just have a problem with it in general?
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I went back through your posts to get some relativity on the situation.
Nowhere did I find that you mention him in a negative light. He has been emotional around you, broken down quite a few times, invited you to come shopping, holidays together, good father etc.... Even though he is the one ending the relationship, doesn't mean he doesn't have romantic notions now & then about you 2 working it out, even if it isn't reality. You are in a tough postition staying in the house pretending that everything is OK. A good man (regardless if he loves you or not) will feel extremely guilty about leaving his family. A good man sees himself as their protector and provider. He now has no value, no significance. Yes.. I know he fell out of love, but that doesn't take away his feeling of obligation to you & your children. Imagine a dog with a purpose, say a German Shephard on a K9 unit. He is the happiest dog alive because he has a purpose. Now when that dog is retired, more often then not, he withdraws & loses his desire to experience life or..... he will become destructive. Us guys are really no different. I would venture to say your husband has lost his significance & feels extremely guilty about what he is doing to the family unit.
Now a crappy guy will sense the freedom and go after it regardless of what he is doing to his family. There are dogs like that as well. See how we guys are simliar to dogs? ;) I am assuming he is a good man.
With guilt comes regression.
With no value comes depression.
Take your pick but both will lead to a lack of communication from him.
This is brought to you by a fellow Realtor.... Sorry for the rambling
Re: I saw her today..... ebl: john,
How touching! - Just like the ending of a sad romantic movie :'(
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