Re: The Big V superwife: That really sux. My ex and I decided one was enough for us (I'm not sure how much I had decided that myself, but it was probably a blessing that it was only one, given the outcome). I on't know that I would have done something so drastic and permanent, even though I never thought I'd be in this position (who really does?).
But also, for other reasons (where ethical dilemmas may be considered). I've seen couples who have gotten pregnany in hopes to get a bone marrow match for their other child who is dying. At least that option is still there then.
Re: The Big V Alphabet Girl: I've been 'fixed' but I don't have the feeling that the option of having more kids has been taken away from me. I made the choice all on my own.
My ex didn't say much in that decision - and I think after witnessing my last labor he understood why I was done having kids. :) I had two very hard pregnancies. My health in the 'female' department is not great and I can't imagine having anymore - for many reasons besides my health, too. If I don't get to be with someone I love because he wants another kid and I can't, it will be sad, but there wouldn't be much I could do about it. Even if I hadn't had the procedure, I still know that I am done having kids no matter what.
If ex has another kid, I know I personally wouldn't care, but I would worry about how much it would affect his time with our kids, especially considering how little time he spends with them now.
Re: The Big V BobFromAcctg: I had it done many years ago and have had no problems with it. Removing the concern about pregnancy was wonderful.
The trick to the surgery is make sure that you get a doctor that will make an incision on EACH side. Some doctors make one cut and then get both sides from the one incision. That causes discomfort since he has to reach and pull across to the other side. A cut on each side eliminates the pulling and that makes the surgery much less stressful.
The only thing that really ticked me off about it is that I could not get it done without my wifes signature. She could kill a child and not tel me about it, but I can not get a vasectomy without her approval. Seems like a double standard there somewhere..
At any rate.. I would recommend it. It worked out fine for me. I had it done after our 4th child and there was NO way I wanted anymore.
Re: The Big V just_me_detroit: I understand that I it takes away the opportunity later on. But I know that I really will never want another kid. I love the kids I have, and I never want them to feel second rate because I have a new baby with me full time.
Someone made a good point about protection from STDs. But that is really a different question. I will have to worry about that whether or not I get a V.
Re: The Big V BobFromAcctg: Yeah.. It really has nothing to do with protection from STD's... Not really sure why someone would think that.
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