Cheating bisexual wife?? catanddog: My wife of 14 years tells me last night that she fooled around on me with one of her female friends, another married woman. They were togther twice over the past 3 months, only kissed and fondled, is what she is telling me. I am not certain that I believe her though. I am unsure if she is telling me that she is bisexual or what because she told me that she may feel like doing this again with this woman? My wife tells me that she is confused and had a similar experience when she was in her teens. She tells me that her friend has been with other women before, and her husband is ok with this.
I am freaking out about this time, we have 3 children, I have been 100% fithful and expect the same in return, but with another woman, is that different for her? I am very clueless about this subject and do not want to go to friends and family for support yet. What should I do.....help.....
Re: Cheating bisexual wife?? Ray.Banner: I read your post a couple of times, and I imagined myself in your position; my wife coming to me and telling me she kissed and fondled another woman, and might be interested in doing it again. The way I figure it, it's not a threat to your marriage, or at least it doesn't seem to be, and if she wants to have a little fun, then would it really hurt? And what if you are really open minded about it, and suggest that you join them? Perhaps I am being a bit short sighted but I can think of worse problems.
Re: Cheating bisexual wife?? catanddog: I might have been open to that a few years ago, like in my teens, but now I see that would lead to complications. Like with her husband, I am not going there......I don't like complications anyways. I told her that if I was George Costanza, it might not bother me, but then he always gets burned in the end.
I don't really see our marriage at risk, it does not bother me so much that she did this, but then I think, maybe I should be bothered. But if she keeps doing it I am sure it will lead to other stuff? I don't know, it just seems weird. She says its pretty common, but I don't know, is it? Do girls think THAT differently, I certainly am not homophobic, but I am straigt completly, no middle ground for me. But are women different in that way?
Re: Cheating bisexual wife?? C-Note: To me it's infidelity. Some may think it's a good deal, but sexual experiementation with someone that's not your spouse is cheating to me. If you have that kind of open relationship then who am I to tell you what's what.
She's fooling around with her girlfriend today.. and what happens tomorrow when it's her girlfriend and some other guy friend or what ever. She's your wife. I'm a bit cave manish about this but if somethings going on I'd want it to be in house and not off somewhere else. That's just me.
Re: Cheating bisexual wife?? catanddog: With three young children, divorce is not an option. I am pleased she was honest with me and at least told me. But infidelity and lack of trust are pretty serios issues to me, I really don't know what to feel. I know it is serious, but if it really was a couple of kisses between girls then what is that?
But foolin around is foolin around. Its not like we lack intimacy though. She said that they had been drinking which could have clouded her judgement. Really freaking me out though, I told her this was not normal as in against what most people are doing in this country. She said its common, but in a marriage it should not be common. I tried not to be mad at her, I want her to keep talking to me about it, but it does make me mad.
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