Re: Cheating bisexual wife?? Spike: Maybe some counselling, just to see where she stands, and you stand. Sometimes a third party can help to show you or her the true meaning behind the action. You are doing the smart thing by not shutting her out, keep the communication open, perhaps she is just in a "phase". Don't let your anger cloud your judgment, it would serve no purpose.
Re: Cheating bisexual wife?? just_me_detroit: Cat,
That is tough. I'm sorry for you going through this.
My wife left our marraige first emotionally and then physically because of another women. It started out as a curiosity and then grew.
Open bisexual marraiges exist and do work, but the level of trust required from both individuals is tremendous. I wasn't given a choice for this type of relationship, but even if I had I could not have done it. It would have been too much for me.
I've been told many times that it isn't as bad because she left me for another women not a man. In some ways this might be true. As a man and through no fault of my own I could not give her what she needed. But it still hurt. Infidelity is still infidelity. And I still lost my love, and my family as I knew it.
I would suggest counseling as Spike said. You say your marraige is not at stake, but unless you confront some issues head on and are comfortable with what is happening then marraige will eventually fail.
Good luck and keep us updated.
Re: Cheating bisexual wife?? ibelong2me: [quote author=C-Note link=topic=38102.msg412283#msg412283 date=1164872967">
To me it's infidelity. Some may think it's a good deal, but sexual experiementation with someone that's not your spouse is cheating to me. If you have that kind of open relationship then who am I to tell you what's what.
She's fooling around with her girlfriend today.. and what happens tomorrow when it's her girlfriend and some other guy friend or what ever. She's your wife. I'm a bit cave manish about this but if somethings going on I'd want it to be in house and not off somewhere else. That's just me.
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I am on the same thinking as C-note here. Everything he said I second it. In my opinion if you are with someone else besides your spouse it is cheating..it's an emotional and physical contact with another person whether it be male or female.
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Re: Cheating bisexual wife?? surprised: I have to agree that cheating is cheating. If this is something you can tolerate and work through, then good for you and I wish you the best in your marriage. But I know my xbf would never have forgiven me for any infidelity. Everyone is different in what they will put up with, so you have to decide for yourself what is and isn't okay for your marriage. I also have to second the counseling idea. I'm sure it can only help alleviate some of the confusion you are both feeling.
Re: Cheating bisexual wife?? catanddog: Thanks for the input, it is starting to sink in a little more after reading these awesome replys. It was cheating, it does not hurt so bad considering that is was a woman. But I like the counseling suggestion and would it be unreasonable to end all ties with that family? We have know them for 9 years and the whole family are friends (they have 2 kids). I have had other issues with that family that I am not comfortable with so that is how I feel right now, not to see them again or talk with them in the future. I think I will put it to my wife, what are your plans with this woman, if she wants to see her again in the future, we may be at the nuclear option. But I don't want to start too heavy handed until I know where she is at.
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