Offshoot of another thread I didn't want to hijack. Bad ones and broken hearts. ezydriver: Furthermore to the nice girls SUCK thread, I want to say that I think part of the reason it hurts so much when they turn out bad, after you think they're nice, is because you're mourning the loss of somebody.
As you realise that that person doesn't actually exist, its like they died. So it triggers a bereavement similar to that of the death of a loved one.
But, the frustration and anger comes in because physicaly that person who was the carrier of the personality we fell in love with is actually still alive.
So much to say on this subject. The pain of that kind of betrayal, that kind of 'love', the realisations about them, yourself and everything else is hitting you from every single perspective and angle. From all sides.
It truly is so traumatic to be involved with, and be lost in somebody who is nothing more than a very very bad one.
for example, Liar, cheat, deceitful, cruel, cold, selfish etc...
But above all, just an illusion and a made up person in your head. Its such a tragedy to mourn somebody who never existed, only in your head. It makes a mockery of your life while you were with them.
Re: Offshoot of another thread I didn't want to hijack. Bad ones and broken hearts. doodlesmore: easydriver.....omg.....you hit the nail on the head. I really did greive like my ex was "dead"...it felt weird to see him walking and talking...but to know THAT was not the man I married...thats not him....it walks like him....sounds like him...but thats not him!!!....i truly felt like he was dead and grieved like he ws dead.....but angry as hell that person , in my mind decided to be "dead"....that it didn't have to end like this.....(sigh)....good post easy....good post
