I don't get you... johnnzd: It's been a month since you told me you were already divorced in your own mind & the paperwork is just details. You haven't given me any indication you want reconciliation, counseling or anything other than a divorce. But I have asked you 3 times in the last 3 weeks to sign the petition so I can get it filed. WHY WON"T YOU!!!
I know it isn't because your having doubts about your decision. I know it isn't because you don't want a divorce. You tell me that it is just all overwhelming...... What the hell is so overwhelming about putting your damn signature on a document that I put together - that I will pay for - that I will take to the courthouse! This just doesn't make any sense to me whatsoever. I have been very nice & patient. But I want to be single by Spring. What a great way to start off my favorite time of year.
Re: I don't get you... Lumpy: In many states you can file without her signature. She'll then be served with the papers. (At your expense of course) You should be able to get the ball rolling without her permission.
Re: I don't get you... johnnzd: I know - I just don't want to take that step in hopes of keeping the negotiations civil and beneficial to both parties.
Re: I don't get you... Lumpy: You filing doesn't have to change that. The bottom line is if she's unsure about the settlement you wrote, she'll probably seek out a lawyer.
Re: I don't get you... johnnzd: Got my paperwork from her yesterday.
I am taking a trip to the courthouse today.
I've said it over & over, it feels good moving forward - a sense of control I haven't had in 16 months.
I wonder if I am just really good at faking my ability to move on?
I wonder if it is going to hit me as hard as it did in the beginning.
Is this really me moving forward or just a facade?
I guess time will tell.
