WHAT GIVES-??? NEED ADVICE ASAP! Shelly: OKay, so I go on to this dating website last Friday-meet someone and go out the next day. We have a great time, kiss at the end of it and an hour after I got home he was sending me text messages. He continues to send me text messages for the next few days and then nothing for two days and then another one yesterday asking where we are going to dinner.
I suggest a place and that maybe he can call me because what's up with all the text messaging back and forth so he does and then tells me he will call me TODAY to make plans for when we are going to go to dinner as he doesn't have his work schedule for the weekend in front of him and he is late for an appt. (He is a personal trainer.)
So this website that we met on, I can see when he is on and he can see when I am on and he is on a lot and doesn't email or instant message me. SO I am thinking that he is istant messaging someone else on there and isn't really all that interested in me.
So, last night I sent a funny email (as we have both been sending sarcastic msgs. back and forth) saying "you log on a lot on this site, who is my competiton ?"
and he responds "no competition."
But then I haven't heard from him today and he is online right now.
ANY IDEAS ON WHAT IS UP WITH THIS ???
I haven't dated in years and am really struggling with putting myself out there and now not knowing what the fuck is up....
Re: WHAT GIVES-??? NEED ADVICE ASAP! turning leaf: [quote author=Shelly link=topic=38544.msg419248#msg419248 date=1165617425">
ANY IDEAS ON WHAT IS UP WITH THIS ???
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You're not the only one he's seeing. And if he's on a lot, what's it to you? I mean, you're on a lot too, right? But does he ask if he has competition?
I know you're out there trying this dating thing but maybe the first thing you should know is that one kiss should not make you feel that it's exclusive and that he should take down his profile or not log in anymore.
If he sends you a message, great. If not, then log in and find more matches.
Re: WHAT GIVES-??? NEED ADVICE ASAP! Shelly: wow. That was mean.
Re: WHAT GIVES-??? NEED ADVICE ASAP! l0progression: Woah, I didn't think Turning Leaf was being mean at all.
That is almost definitely what is happening, and I think its very reasonable to assume that. Its certainly not a problem to see two or three or even more people at a time until an arrangement is made where a person enters a monogamous relationship. One kiss, one date, and some text messages certainly isn't a relationship.
I wouldn't worry about it, don't let it get ya down. If there is competition, which there probably is, all that means is you have to work a little harder to win his heart! Which you should be doing anyway!!
Re: WHAT GIVES-??? NEED ADVICE ASAP! Shelly: no, screw that. I hate dating already. lol.
It hardly seems worth it....
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