Re: WHAT GIVES-??? NEED ADVICE ASAP! shygirl2006: You have to be prepared as well that there are men that use matching services online to date many women at once and to be players. I find that it is very common for men to date a few women at a time from online matching sites.
I have also seen many times men that try to have "serious" relationships and hide the several women from each other.
Women do this too, but I am a woman speaking to a woman about a man so that is why it is worded as such.
My opinion is he is dating a few women at once. Do not push him, chase him etc. He needs to come to you. You dont want to seem desperate. I also do not believe you should try to win his heart. Just be yourself and if he likes you he likes you. Do not get pushy, or attached over small things. The kiss was a kiss. Just hang out and see how it goes.
If he starts to break plans, always busy and no time etc get rid of him.
Just my two cents.
Re: WHAT GIVES-??? NEED ADVICE ASAP! MEP2006: Online dating sucks for that reason... too much choice, not enough follow-through. I'm with you on that whole hating dating thing already. I think it's appalling how many of us use the internet to justify bad behaviour.
Re: WHAT GIVES-??? NEED ADVICE ASAP! superwife: Welcome to the world of post-divorce online dating :D
Seriously, I think the rest have said it. Not that he is necessarily a playa, but he is most likely checking out all his options. And you know what? There's not really anything wrong with that, IMO. I came to realize this after a short time on these sites. And you have every right to do the same thing. Don't put all your eggs in one basket. I'm not saying go screw every guy in a 5 mile radius, but don't stop talking to guys because you went out on one date. I know I was on after I first went out with my bf (and yes I was checking to see if he had logged on too, and he could obviously see if I was on). Ultimately, he deleted his profile after a month, and I his mine right before he deleted his.
A word of advice, don't ask him that question again. Before my bf, the last guy I met from the site kept 'jokingly' asking me about all the other dates I was going on. It got a bit annoying (and I had not gone out with anyone, no one else intersted me at the time). To me, it seemed like he was feeling me out, to see if it would be okay with me if he went out with others.
You'll get a sense of when (or if) this is going to become exclusive. If there are gaps in days that you don't speak, then you can assume there are others in contention. But honestly, as the others said, he doesn't owe you any exclusivity at this point. And you don't owe it to him either.
Re: WHAT GIVES-??? NEED ADVICE ASAP! JimB: Thin skin alert!
Shelly, it's a rough world out there. Dating is kind of indicative of life in general, and for those of us who have been isolated in a marriage for a while, it's easy to forget what real life is like. Real life is full of little rejections, each of which gives us an opportunity to build character by overcoming them.
It sounds to me like you're taking this pretty seriously. And quite frankly, dating is too ridiculous to be taken seriously. You'll meet all kinds of freaks out there, the vast majority of whom won't be worth pursuing. If you don't approve of the way this one is behaving (regardless of what his motivations might or might not be), or if he's just making you nuts, kick him aside and get back in the game.
Re: WHAT GIVES-??? NEED ADVICE ASAP! 2be: ^
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Yeah, what he said. :D
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