FRUSTRATED AND FEEL LIKE THATS IT FOR US ! LOST_N_TRANSLATION: How can you turn back after so many harsh words and accusations, how can i talk to someone that preceives methis way. Ive heard whore and tramp and bitch sooooo many others, because i went out with a few friends. He wants me locked up because in his words im his and he doesnt want to "share me". So because i dressed up and went out with friends i had to be up to more than just going out to have some fun with my friends. I have never been disloyal or a cheater, weve been together 10 yrs , he knows how i am, yet these hatefull words come out of no where yet they remain in my heart forever...........its to the point i cannot look at him with out hearing them, i love him but hate the miserable man hes become. Hes only 30 and acts like hes 70 with no future. We have suffered tremendous loss in our relationship. the loss of our 7 week old baby girl to sids, the loss of my mother , yet i thought through tragedy we could pull through if we stuck together, yet his anger inside and be miserable has struck new hieghts.............we also have 4 other children who hear this and 3 of them being boys dont want them to think its ok to treat women like this, and my youngest daughter, i dont want her to think its ok to be treated this way. There is just so much going on that i dont want to fight anymore for the same ole same ole , but he will not let me go?????????????????
Re: FRUSTRATED AND FEEL LIKE THATS IT FOR US ! PennyLane: Lost welcome to ojar. No doubt your dealing with a lot on your plate. Have you both been to counseling? The way thins are going, your kids might need it too. I'm assuming they are all fairly young. If you haven't seen a counselor, would you go? If he won't it wouldn't hurt you to go on your own.
Re: FRUSTRATED AND FEEL LIKE THATS IT FOR US ! LOST_N_TRANSLATION: Ty for your comments, the kids are young and i would love to find councelling for them and i, i know he wont go. But finding enough time in a day is a struggle within its self. Thats why i feel so lost, hes all i know and he has no will to try and help us get through this together. I just dont know anymore...........
