Re: I don't want to try, he does... tara: Redfire, it sounds less like you're dissatisfied with marriage and more like you're depressed. The dissatisfaction could just be a symptom.
You may want to see a doctor before you do anything you can't undo.
Re: I don't want to try, he does... redfirebunny: Maybe so... Thanks to all who posted. Its good to hear both sides.
This will be the biggest decision I probably ever make.
Its been good hearing the advice, the feelings of others and reading some of the other posts.
Its nice to know others out there have been through the same thing, followed some of the same paths, some have gotten back together, some have not but all have survived.
Re: I don't want to try, he does... crushedman: The main thing is, why are you you misereble WITH YOUR HUSBAND? What exactly did he do to make you feel this way? And even if we assume (a gigantic assumption) that he did something or a combination of things to warrant you feeling this way towards him, why not try to solve the problem? What do you have to lose by giving it an honest try? If you give the marriage a legitimate shot and it still doesn't work, you end up right where you are now. You've lost absolutely nothing.
The other thing is, what about your children? Because unless your marriage is a battle zone and abusive, they will be FAR WORSE off if you sererate and divorce. The negative consequences of a divorce last DECADES. Why ruin their lives without giving it a shot?
cm
Re: I don't want to try, he does... crushedman: This will be the biggest decision I probably ever make.
We agree on this one. So if it's such a big decision, why go through with the seperation until you go to counseling and give the marriage an honest try?
cm
