Re: Question surprised: Now I'm a rat in a cage? Lol. Though sometimes it feels like that. I think I will do my best to wait and email him next month after the holidays. And if your right, c-note, the zap will still hurt in a few weeks.
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I want to jog a little memory and feelings, especially this time of the year. On the other hand, if he never wants me back, I need him to be very clear and flat out say that to me.
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Chances are you won't jog his memory like you think it will. unfortunately. i know that sux. and no, you don't need to hear it from him. you're just looking for any excuse at all to be in contact with him again. trust me, i don't mean to make you feel bad, cause god, i certainly know where you're coming from. but as people mentioned here, you won't hear the answers you are looking for. you can't MAKE someone feel what you want them to feel. wish you/i could, but we can't. re-read your "why i wont call" thread. and hang in there. you don't FEEL like you're making progress, but you are. its one of those things where are you too close to the situation to be able to see it.
Re: Question MEP2006: You're so bang-on, icw. I really needed to read that, too. Thanks for your perspective and your reality-jolt.
Re: Question tryingtosmile: Trust me, the one question email might seem like a good idea in theory, but the chances are great that you won't get the response you are looking for and if he does reply, it will hurt! I was hurt and tired of my husband asking me if I was "ok" and so I emailed him a journal entry telling him my truth. I don't know what I was hoping for, but it sure wasn't the response that I got...(read my previous posts if you want to see his reply!!) I think reading his reply was actually more painful than him actually leaving. It gave me a kick in the "reality pants". :P
Keep that question in the back of you mind and give yourself a couple of months..then if you still want to ask him, go ahead. Just be prepared for a response that you won't like. I know how you feel though and I sympathize with you...it sucks!! Stay strong!
Re: Question Spike: He can't help you heal!!! I know you think he can, because he did before, but he is useless in your healing process. You need to reach in, and find the person you were before you met him, get in touch with the person that didn't know or need him. She is still in you, and she will pull you through. To Hell with him, he is hurt, and pain, thats all.
