Re: Question Cherry: LOL. I am the same way sometimes.
Dont make your holiday too tangled with it if you can help it. It will be hard enough on its own without adding gas to the fire.
If you can't go without doing it.......try to wait a while. Who knows after the holidays, you may be in a better place.
Re: Question doseyclwn: [quote author=surprised link=topic=38570.msg419512#msg419512 date=1165706425">
I know...the thing is, I don't really feel like I'm making any progress anyway. I feel like I'm just going in circles, up one minute, down the next. So I guess I feel like one little question won't hurt any worse than I'm already hurting myself.
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Then my advice would be no, don't email him. The answers to the question don't matter. They really don't. You will still hurt. The best thing you can do is to do your best and move on. I know it's not easy, but it DOES get better, which practically everyone on here will tell you.
Re: Question smokin: it wont help, and to make him be mean to you, to help you heal, isnt the way to go.
you know what he wants, and these people are not overrun by moral feelings, and it wont jar his memory enought to throw himself at your feet.....
i absolutely WOULD NOT do it.... it will set u back more.........good luck, gtm
Re: Question C-Note: Just get it over with. Call ask and brace for what ever comes of it. Some have electro-shock therapy where negative stimulous is applied after performing an undesirable action. Over time your natural response to performing those undesirable actions will be to avoid the pain.
It takes time to get it. Lots of time. So zap. Did it tingle?
Re: Question hudson: [quote author=surprised link=topic=38570.msg419514#msg419514 date=1165707048">
On the other hand, if he never wants me back, I need him to be very clear and flat out say that to me.
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I don't know your story but if this is your stbxh then him filing for divorce would be a pretty clear message that he doesn't want you back. Also, if he broke up with you, moved out, etc., etc, I think those are all clear messages that he doesn't want you back.
But I understand your feelings. You don't feel enough closure, you feel like he owes you more than what he's given you. But the truth is, closure happens when you let go, not when he tells you "listen, it's over and i'm don't want you back". Closure comes in time. My exwife left me one day and I never saw her again. Still haven't seen or talked to her to this day. Yet somehow I managed to gain closure. It's taken over 2 years, but I have closure. No thanks to her. :P
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