children saftey question here tme4me: Just posting to see if I'm overreacting... but I dropped my kids off at my x's house tonight and he didn't come out like he usually does so I called him and he said he was out getting food but his new wife Sandra was there and he would send out Colton my stepson to get them. I thought no big deal and dropped the kids off as I left I got this awful feeling that my kids weren't safe so I called him and found out that no adult was at the house. Granted Colton is 14 now but I was his stepmother for over 10 years and he isn't responsible enough to baby sit a 2 year old. So I asked when my x would be back and he said he was out xmas shopping and it was none of my damn buisness and H/U. So I called the police...Here in Utah unfortuanly there is no law on age to babysit so my 6 year old could watch my 2 year old kind of stupid but nonethe less my X and his wife got home about 20 minutes later. So legally theres nothing I could do but I got my x home and I don't feel bad other than I'm worried about how often he leaves my kids home with others watching them because the 14 year old isn't alway there sometimes its just the new wifes 14 year old or 8 year old whom I don't know at all so now I'm worried (she has 3 kids by 3 different people so I never know when and who is there.
Did I overreact or did I do the right thing?
Re: children saftey question here Lady Phoenix: wow.. you are definatley stuck between a rock and a hard place here.. I know that I wouldnt let a 14 year old babysit my 2 year old.. Now my 10 year old has watched him for about 5 minutes when I had to leave for work before there was anyone to watch him...but ..I always know its only for a short time.
If the laws in your state have no jurisdiction over this sort of thing..the only thing that you can probably do is have something put in your visitation agreeement.. such as.. at no times is the 2 year old to be left with anyone under the age of 21.. etc etc.. and if your ex violates this..then he loses visitation for that week.. month..whatever.
You have every right to be concerned for your children.. If you and your ex can communicate.. tell him your concerns..and try to work something out.
I wish you the best.. I know how hard it must be for you :-\
Lady Phoenix
Re: children saftey question here bamacannon: I would try and contact the child services in your area and see what they have to say. I know I have seen where people have gotten in trouble for leaving their kids with people incapable of caring for them. If you have a lawyer, talk to him and see if you can do something though the courts. I've already discussed my displeasure with the courts allowing the non custodial parent to assign a homeless guy to watch the kids and pick them up when ever they want. I think that if you cant actually spend your visitation time with your kids, you loose it all together, thats just me.
Re: children saftey question here tme4me: I agree if he doesn't want the time with the kids fine!!!! I do I'll gladly spend his time with them and mine too!!! Its just a safety thing for me I would expect him to leave them with a responsible adult/babysitter apparently I had children with an idiot!!
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Its just a safety thing for me I would expect him to leave them with a responsible adult/babysitter apparently I had children with an idiot!!
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