So I have been going out for the last 2 saterdays. Mr. Incognito: I dont know what I am doing. I have been going out for the past two saterdays to try to find a life. I basicly head down to this biker bar then skip over to the place I used to bounce at. Have a few drinks and stare at the walls or the river. I know that I should try to be more social when I am out and about but currently I dont really feel that I have much to offer anyone in the way of friendship. My wife was always under the impression that I had a great social life because I know people but she never understood that those people are not my friends they are just people who I am friendly with. Last night I am sitting at the bar and there are these two women who came in together and the whole scenario is just pathetic. I watched as all these desperate men tried to pick them up by buying them drinks then trying to chat them up. I felt kinda disqusted because I started thinking to myself, "Am I going to be doing this one day?" when I get to be an older man. I mean the girls where maybe 24-25 years old and the men hitting on them had to be 48-50. Well to make a long story short apparently they had to go out to their car or something because as they where leaving they came up to me and introduced themselves then walked outside, at this point I was disqusted I thought to myself, "Now why in the world would you talk to me? Have i given you any sign that I want to talk to you, cant you see that I dont want to talk to you" instead when they introduced themselves I said "Hi I am Eric" then went back to my drink. I quickly finished of my beer and headed out to the Harley to go home when they approched me again and asked me why I was leaving and where I was going, I said I am going home then just started the bike to drown out any more questions. All the while I just kept thinking "for gods sake go talk to the dudes inside who have been buying you jello shots." I need help in getting a social life back in a big way.
Re: So I have been going out for the last 2 saterdays. ann7906: I need a social life, too, but I don't think bars are the way to find it. I signed up at meetup.com and have been going to some events--nothing too fantastic yet, but I've meet some people who might be potential friend material and I've had something to do almost every weekend. I've also joined a volleyball league. I'm hoping this will help me meet 'normal' people and just have some friends to hang out with again. At this point I'm not ready for a new relationship, but even if I was, I don't think I'd find the right kind of person in a bar. It's just a meat market.
Re: So I have been going out for the last 2 saterdays. Mr. Incognito: I think some of my problem was that I married my wife when I was 20 years old, and so I never really learned how to meet people as a "full blown adult" does that make sense or am I just confused?
Re: So I have been going out for the last 2 saterdays. ann7906: No, I agree, I don't know how to meet people as an adult either. I married at 23, when I was still in grad school...
Re: So I have been going out for the last 2 saterdays. Cherry: I agree with you. I was 19 when I met my ex.
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