Re: So I have been going out for the last 2 saterdays. Mr. Incognito: LOL the worst part about this whole thing is I am a little scared about all this,because even when I was working the bar scene and was around all the interplay between people I had a hard time picking up on how people are supposed to interact. Bouncers are not encouraged to chat it up with patrons you know. I am Waaaay afraid of attempting to meet people because what if I meet a woman? I was a virgin went I met my wife so I am afraid I am not exactly the most confident with the idea of having relations with women. When you have only had sex with one woman in your life I cant help but feel nervous at the prospect. Not that there is anyone around anyway but eventually this is going to come up
Re: So I have been going out for the last 2 saterdays. Cherry: God, I was scared ato death. Because I had not been with anyone else before I had kids and he was sure to tell me now that I had, no one would want me. lol. Yeah was he wrong ;)
Dont worry, it will come up at some point, but Im sure it will be just fine. Try to "exist in the moment". I stress about things I have no control over all the time, but Im trying to relax more and more about things.
Re: So I have been going out for the last 2 saterdays. mav100: Heh - I know how you feel. I'm out and about almost every single night with some friends, and have even gone out on a date or two. As much as I liked the woman when I first met her (while I was with Janay), I'm not too attracted to her now.
Same deal last night - out with a buddy, some girl getting hit on that was attractive but not a *hottie*, more like the girl next door like Janay was. I ignored her, tried not to look, but caught her checking me out a few times. I just didn't have it in me to talk to her.
Losses like these sure do take the wind out of your social sails.
Re: So I have been going out for the last 2 saterdays. johnnzd: Meeting someone or striking up a conversation is NOT hard!
The challenge is in what venue you are trying to meet someone.
If you are involved in some type of activity where there are many people with similar interests.... well that takes care of the hardest part.
Bars ain't the place.
I come from a sales background & meeting people is a numbers game just like anything else. Get busy doing activities.
Give a sincere compliment, smile, & introduce yourself. That's it!
