help.... tripny2k6: Well the ex and I decided last week to give her some more time so she could do things the right way this time. She wants to be 100% sure and stick with it this time. Part of me is lke, wtf? Its a yes or no answer. There is no maybe at the bottom of a love note here. I havent heard from her since friday afternoon but she was going out of town to go shopping with her family and was supposed to be back last night. I broke down and called her this morning, of course no answer. I feel so down right now. I guess that I have a different perspective to all of this than she does. I mean, why say the things tyhat she does and then just act as if I dont exist. I try not to say any of this to her bc I know that she has been going through some confusing parts of her life the last few months. But it just hurts. I feel so stupid by just waiting around for her to make up her mind on whether she wants to spend her life with me or not. I know this is a pretty seriuos decision. And given our circumstances we are going to have to just let everyone know what is up and face the music together. Im hoping ad praying that she is not out to make me look stupid. ie keeping me hanging on while she gets over me....
Re: help.... ajw: Thats exactly what she is doing.....your her safety valve......you've let this woman into your heart a number of times and every time she has shit on you from a great height.
Keep looking for other jobs and get yourself away from her,let her sort her problems out and if its meant to be she will find you.
Re: help.... tripny2k6: Thats sooo hard to do. I mean, I still do it. I've applied for jobs all over the east coast. But I love her. A lot of the things she told me I can make sense out of. I mean, when we have split up the past two times, I have really gone off on her. She questions the fact if I really even love her bc of the things that I said out of hurt. But I told her, that is the ost extreme case. Even though it was very wrong of me to say some of the things I did, thats what you get when you make such serious plans with someone and then shit all over them.
She says that she needs to get her faith back in herself and in me before so that she can do things right this time.
Re: help.... ajw: and she wants you to put your life on hold on the off chance she will decide to get back with you.........and whats her track record with this happening.....well you get back together,you put in all the effort and then she splits when things get too pressured for her.
If you stay around and wait for her...then she wont get better....she does'nt need to cause you will take her back whatever.......
i dont mean to be nasty here,but stopping be a doormat
Re: help.... tripny2k6: She told me that she doesnt want to hurt me anymore, thats why she wants to make sure this is what she wants this time around. I know. I feel like a doormat.
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