Re: OK, time for someone to hit me.... Mr. Incognito: I want my wife to come back too. About every 3 hours I just wish she would show up and say "can I come home?" other times I am like Damn she lives with another man!
Part of me wants her to come home and part of me wants to stick to my guns when I told her that if she went to that guys house there was no comming back out of sheer pissitude. Of course the reality of it is its not even my choice. The only way that I can be the "big strong man" is if she wanted to come back which she does'nt, so I guess I kind of had that taken from me. I assume that this is how you feel as well?
Re: OK, time for someone to hit me.... mav100: [quote author=Mr. Incognito link=topic=38599.msg419730#msg419730 date=1165775590">
I want my wife to come back too. About every 3 hours I just wish she would show up and say "can I come home?" other times I am like Damn she lives with another man!
Part of me wants her to come home and part of me wants to stick to my guns when I told her that if she went to that guys house there was no comming back out of sheer pissitude. Of course the reality of it is its not even my choice. The only way that I can be the "big strong man" is if she wanted to come back which she does'nt, so I guess I kind of had that taken from me. I assume that this is how you feel as well?
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Yes, I feel very similar. However, it's still *our* choice. They left. We asked them to stay. They refused. While they chose to leave, we do not need to contact them, and if/when they do come sniffing around, it will be our choice to allow them back into our lives.
I ask myself this question when I feel weak about the situation: If this was happening to a friend, and his girlfriend or wife walked out on him like that, what would I tell him? That she's dirty, and certainly not worth his time.
The same applies to us. It's just our hearts cloud our brains better judgment.
Re: OK, time for someone to hit me.... Mr. Incognito: I hope that I pull it off because I dont really have the option of not having her in my life right now because she comes to the house everyday to see our kid. That is the worst part about my sistuation I think, I have to see her two times a day knowing where she came from to visit our son and knowing where she is going after the visitation. If you think that there is a God do me a favor and pray for me dude, cause it sucks as I am sure you can relate.
Re: OK, time for someone to hit me.... mav100: [quote author=Mr. Incognito link=topic=38599.msg419740#msg419740 date=1165776261">
I hope that I pull it off because I dont really have the option of not having her in my life right now because she comes to the house everyday to see our kid. That is the worst part about my sistuation I think, I have to see her two times a day knowing where she came from to visit our son and knowing where she is going after the visitation. If you think that there is a God do me a favor and pray for me dude, cause it sucks as I am sure you can relate.
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Can you ask her to make arraingments to have someone else pick your child up, or is the visitation strictly "in-house"? It's much harder to deal with these situations when you have to see the person every day. That's one of the reasons alot of people won't date people they work with.
If avoiding her isn't completely possible, try setting specific times for her visitation and leave when she gets there, and return when she is to leave. I had to deal with this for a while myself years back with my son's mother, and it was a bitch. I know its tough. But be strong, seem apathetic to her, and see what happens. If you are happy and don't seem to be bothered, it might just be the kick in the ass she needs to wake up. You lost her, but right now she knows she still has you if she wants you. Take away her security blanket.
Re: OK, time for someone to hit me.... Mr. Incognito: well she is supposed to be here in like 2 hours and keep him until 7:00 I figured that I would sit at Dunkin Donuts for a few hours. But yeah I dont hang around when she come to see him. It just sucks because I know from whoms house she comes and from whoms house she returns.
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