Breaking Things startingover: Systematically I am going through the house and getting rid of the things associated with him and it feels good.
Yesturday I tore up everything associated with our second honeymoon, the one he cheated on me during while I was pregnant with his child. I threw away the lingerie he bought me and the garter from our wedding, and burnt the family photo. Today I shattered the champange goblets from our wedding.
I never ment anything to him.
Re: Breaking Things Mr. Incognito: you are a hell of alot stronger than I am I made her take the wedding pictures off the wall after looking at them for 2 weeks. I just could not do it.
Re: Breaking Things ebl: yeah, me neither. I just took them all in put them in a box.
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Screw that, he never loved me. Why would I want to keep anything associated with the lies he has told me. Now if I could only change the paternity of my children.
Re: Breaking Things sheeps: I think we all do these things in stages. I took down the immediate and easy reminders and completely remodeled our just remodeled Master suite because it was like sleeping in a mausoleum.
I've recently been able to dispose of many things without much inner turmoil. I still have hundreds of digital photos and emails, which are hidden, but I can't bear just yet to go through them. I know I'll keep the photos forever; it's a part of my life I don't fully regret and someday I'll be able go over them with the new Mrs. Sheeps, who will understand that we all have a past, and she won't be uncomfortable with it. Plus, it's pictures of my kids, our beloved dogs, and my darling late cat Dixe who I inherited from the near Mrs. Sheeps that dumped me like a load of cement.
The emails are so personal that I can't imagine looking through them, but I honestly think they contain some of the best prose I've written. I'm thinking someday I may write a book about the life and death of my marriage and bare it all. The meeting, the courtship, marriage, and divorce, all punctuated by the emails and IM logs that mirror each stage of the relationship from beginning to end. Perhaps it will be my last cathartic effort at moving on.
Slowly, the home is being remade to suit me more, although it was already incredibly beautiful as my ex-wife is a wonderful professional interior designer. I just need to filter or moderate her influence a little bit to be completely comfortable in this home.
Just yesterday I threw into the "dump" trailer, two sets of glasses that she constantly used for Iced Tea. I couldn't stand to see them unused in the cupboard anymore. I didn't even bother to make them break...
Anyway, I guess my main point is that we all make these decisions differently, and I've tried to make certain I'm not destroying something I'll come to regret later.
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