Re: Do you think that you will ever be "in love" again? Is it possible? chaotic: As I have dated more and more, I have come to believe that love is a cycling state of mind. Everyone is on a different love cycle. Meaning we each have periods of time that we are able to fall into varying degrees of love (physical, romantic, friendship, soulmate, etc). We have a few moments in our lifetimes the ability to have "all of the above" in a single cycle, but they are rare.
We sometimes percieve the love cycle we are in as the "all of the above" cycle because sometimes the physical or romantic cycles are so powerful. Or the other person is in a physical cycle while you are in a romantic cycle. These mismatches can often times last for years in a relationship but often end when other person finds someone elses cycle more interesting.
The secret to lasting love is to meet a person during your "all of the above" cycle that is also in their "all of the above" cycle. Then making sure both of you maintain a cycle and when one person is on a low point, the other must work extra hard until the cycles match up again.
Re: Do you think that you will ever be "in love" again? Is it possible? yella: chaotic - You made a great point, and I've found the same thing to be true. However, I think it's incredibly difficult to meet while in the same "cycle".
Ahhh... love... ain't it grand? ::)
Re: Do you think that you will ever be "in love" again? Is it possible? snkpack: I believe its entirely possible and I can't wait to experience it again.
That'll be one lucky dude! 8)
Re: Do you think that you will ever be "in love" again? Is it possible? Mango25: I think this is the source of my depression:
I am kind of a tomboy and have A LOT of male friends, so I get to meet a lot of men, but am actually very picky about who I'm really attracted to romantically.
I think I have fallen in love twice in the past ten years. The first breakup was bad. This last one -- worse. I always thought the term "soul mates" was cheesy, but we were. Connection on every level. He always said it was like magic. It was.
Now I'm 30 and have a hard time believing it will ever happen again. I hope, but don't have hope. Does that make sense? I think I would be a LOT less sad if I really believed it will happen.
Re: Do you think that you will ever be "in love" again? Is it possible? whythisnow: Mango,
I know the the hope issue too. You don't want to hope too much because if it does not happen the let down will hurt too much.
So you stay guarded against dreaming and hoping too much.
We are all in the searching for our happiness and that includes loving someone else as deeply as we love them. We need to find the giving love in a healthy, stable, well balanced relationship.
I don't want just a lover, I also want a best friend that I can trust. SOmeone that I will take care of and who would take care of me if something were to happen.
Love is a four letter would that is closer to hate then anything else in my mind sometimes. How can we love someone so much and then a few months later split up and hate each other?
Love is like a warm blanket on a cold night that you never want to leave. When it is taken away you miss it with your heart and soul.
I love you guys !!!
FIDO
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