How could you... MrCheyny: How could you...
Walk out when you were needed the most..
Let 7 years together go after 7 months of marriage...
Not want to try to work on this...
Sleep at night...
Give up a loving husband because you now all of a sudden need time...
Forget all the good and just remeber the bad...
make a vow and break it so easily...
look me in the eyes and lie "for better and worse, til death do us part"
Re: How could you... LettinGo: (((((HUGS)))))
Re: How could you... MEP2006: I've been asking myself those very same questions. The problem is, the answer doesn't even matter. What matters is that this person dishonoured you and the vows you made to each other, and so you need to leave them behind and begin that walk forward. Nothing she can say is going to make it better, and even if you knew the truth about why she did such a shitty thing, it wouldn't make the hurting stop. Now is the time for finding your own peace, outside of this person's validation or explanation. I know how much it hurts, believe me, I know.
Re: How could you... lonewolf: Mr Chey,
Betterthanthis has it all nailed. The thing is you may or may never know the answers to the questions you have posted... and your going to have to learn to deal with it.
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How could you...
Give up a loving husband because you now all of a sudden need time...
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This here rings alarm bells. I, like many here, have been given that line as a precursor for ending up here on OJar. But the one thing i've learnt is that: be glad she's admitted it. At least now she can work on it, and not tell you 5, 10 years from now when commitments would've been bigger.
You can't force a person to 'discover' themselves. Or force them to love you. It wouldn't be right, for you and her.
My ex-f said the same thing to me. A month later she was with a new man. I make the discovery of the new man DAYS after she calls me crying telling me how confused she is, how sad she feels, etc. All this with a new man on her side.
It will be hard friend, but please try and accept some solace in the fact that IT WAS NOT YOU WHO GAVE UP. IT WAS YOU WHO KEPT FIGHTING. IT WAS YOU WHO KEPT YOUR VOWS. She was the one who chose to walk away. Know that you stood tall amongst the madness and faced them, instead of walking away like she had.
Also, give her time. Its the best thing for her right now, as hard as it is on you.
Don't forget, this is all my opinion. You don't have to take anything i say. But we're all here.
Good luck.
