Re: what does "bouncing from guy to guy" mean???? JNA: He's talking about running from one to the next which is probably not the case with you as you are more than likely as said dating and getting to know others...
What he is talking about is something Sarah wrote a "great" post on about Rebounds
As long as you have healed and your emotions are in the right place we all do what you are doing now...Kind of exploring the dating scene...
What your ex is talking about is when an Emotionally Unheathy woman/man runs from one to the next
It is a Train Wreck waiting to happen and all parties get hurt...
I met one like that but anywho
As far as the rest it is really none of his business what you are doing...Who you are seeing or what your intentions are...
And I would tell him such if I were you
Just my opinion...
JNA
Re: what does "bouncing from guy to guy" mean???? zjmusashi: [quote author=cdoulatiff link=topic=39032.msg425594#msg425594 date=1166573369">
OK...so my jealous friend (he's a guy who used to be in love w/ me) says that I'm "bouncing from guy to guy". (snip)
He also claims that I don't have a good selection process because when he asks me about any new guy (snip)
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Chances are Jealous Friend (JF from here on out) is still carrying a torch for you. No man asks about what you see in another man without adding the thought (spoken or not) "What does he have that I don't have?"
When a male truly platonic friend finds out you're dating a new guy, all they really care about is your happiness and safety. If you're happy and there's no sense of danger, they're happy. We are not your girlfriends that want to know every aspect of the date. Now, when the "platonic friend" asks more indepth questions about the guy you're dating, it's usually with the thought "What does he have that I don't have?" The "platonic friend" is the guy who's watched too many romantic comedies, and is just waiting for you to recognize that the guy you've wanted all along is right in front of you.
So, if you like JF as just a friend, there's no need to shame him or anything. Just do like JNA said - tell him as few details as possible: "Yes, I'm seeing a guy, he does X for a living, and he's very nice". If he presses for more detail, just tell him it's none of his business, but that you'll let him know if you need to talk more about it.
Re: what does "bouncing from guy to guy" mean???? superwife: [quote author=zjmusashi link=topic=39032.msg426198#msg426198 date=1166648188">
Chances are Jealous Friend (JF from here on out) is still carrying a torch for you. No man asks about what you see in another man without adding the thought (spoken or not) "What does he have that I don't have?"
When a male truly platonic friend finds out you're dating a new guy, all they really care about is your happiness and safety. If you're happy and there's no sense of danger, they're happy. We are not your girlfriends that want to know every aspect of the date. Now, when the "platonic friend" asks more indepth questions about the guy you're dating, it's usually with the thought "What does he have that I don't have?" The "platonic friend" is the guy who's watched too many romantic comedies, and is just waiting for you to recognize that the guy you've wanted all along is right in front of you.
So, if you like JF as just a friend, there's no need to shame him or anything. Just do like JNA said - tell him as few details as possible: "Yes, I'm seeing a guy, he does X for a living, and he's very nice". If he presses for more detail, just tell him it's none of his business, but that you'll let him know if you need to talk more about it.
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Excellent post ;)
BTW, it's called 'dating', not jumping from guy to guy.
Re: what does "bouncing from guy to guy" mean???? pluscachange: [quote"> what does "bouncing from guy to guy" mean????[/quote">
That you need to stop dating guys made out of rubber?
