Re: we are back at square one, or worse? frankbj: [quote author=Cherry link=topic=39038.msg425711#msg425711 date=1166585816">
It seems to me that she is searching for this "security" she feels is lacking. Nothing you are doing, it is an emptiness inside her that fuels this.
You are in danger of becoming some serious collateral damage here. My advice would be to back off. She has made it apparent that she is unwilling/unable to commit to you and your relationship. I know that it hurts, unbelieveably so, but you deserve better and there is someone that will love you without all the B.S..
I played the back and forth game for a long time and eventually it wasn't only me, but two kids who suffered as well. Time to put the vehicle in gear and burn rubber.
Over time, you will gain strength and it will not hurt as much. (hugs) sorry you are going thru this.
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Thank you....(hug back) and I know you are right.
She seems to have commitment issue (funny for me to say that, since I've been called that all my life). But I have to admit my head is telling me that, while my heart wish that she would this very second.
But I am rising the bar this time, I could not just have she to come and 'sweet talk' me into anything now, as others had suggested, this time (if my wishful thinking works) I would take things slow and observe for a while. I am looking for someone who loves me like the way I love her, and be supportive, patient, etc. Plus, this time if she call me (again, still having wishful thinking) she better seriously apologize
Re: we are back at square one, or worse? frankbj: I came back on Sunday,and now is Wed. night...still no call/contact from her....I guess that call probably will never be here.
Re: we are back at square one, or worse? Cherry: I know that silence looms large and empty when you are waiting for that call. Hell mine never called either, me or his kids.......and would only contact me when he wanted a booty call.
It is better this way but you have to focus on something but that missing piece. Get involved in a hobby, take a walk, volunteer your time for Christmas.
I hope the new year brings you some peace and happiness Frank. I think we are all overdue for a break.
Re: we are back at square one, or worse? frankbj: [quote author=Cherry link=topic=39038.msg425895#msg425895 date=1166631330">
I know that silence looms large and empty when you are waiting for that call. Hell mine never called either, me or his kids.......and would only contact me when he wanted a booty call.
It is better this way but you have to focus on something but that missing piece. Get involved in a hobby, take a walk, volunteer your time for Christmas.
I hope the new year brings you some peace and happiness Frank. I think we are all overdue for a break.
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Thank you for your kind words....
Everyday I woke up in the morning feeling sad...knowing that a day had passed and she never called again. But then at the same time I understand that I survived yet another day.....
I will start a 4 days vacation from tomorrow and I have no idea what I will be doing.
Re: we are back at square one, or worse? JNA: frank wrote: "I will start a 4 days vacation from tomorrow and I have no idea what I will be doing."
Just try not to think about her...
I know it sounds strange (because he is...LOL) but when a friend of mine was getting over a relationship one time he wore a rubberband on his arm and "snapped" it everytime he tought of her
Not that I am recommending it as my friend is a little out there...LOL
But try not to think about it as much as possible...
There are a lot of women out here that "can" return your love in full and kind
When you meet one that cannot Say Next and leave them to there own devices...
2 to 1 my friend...Women outnumber us two to one
When the thought of her enters your mind while on Vaca...Look around and scope out all the beautiful women that are out here...
Some of them are beautiful "inside" too
Stay Strong
JNA
Listen to Cherry she has been through types like this...
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